Where is the Great Active Old IVillage of 11 Years Ago Where People Really Interracted...

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Registered: 05-26-2013
Where is the Great Active Old IVillage of 11 Years Ago Where People Really Interracted...
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Fri, 06-07-2013 - 11:38am

..and you felt like you had support?

Feedback is the only reason to post here, otherwise...effort for nothing...thanks anyway...

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Community Leader
Registered: 06-16-1998

iVillage has changed in the past 11 years, like most everything else. Facebook probably has a lot to do with it....11 years ago it was open only to college students but now anybody can connect there.

In early October 2012 iVillage made some changes which unfortunately brought huge problems that they have not yet been able to resolve. The difficulty in signing on and posting have driven away many former members, and kept even the die-hard members from being as active as they might like. They are working on the problems and I hope that eventually the boards will return to previous levels of activity.

I believe there are still many caring and supportive people here. Even when people don't specifically ask for suggestions I think we tend to assume that people are posting because they want specific advice, not just someone to say "sorry you're having problems". And when one writes about an issue on a public forum you have to expect a range of replies. I have been a member here for 15 years and recall plenty of harsh comments over the years. 

If you feel like the responses you get to your posts are too harsh perhaps you should include that you want support and not criticism, or that you are just venting. Don't know if that would help but may be worth a try.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2007

I have done that and it worked.  There was a time when I just needed to vent, I did not want to be judged or be told I was being unreasonable.    I said that when I posted and people were supportive. 

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-14-2003

I agree with you entirely, ELC.  I think there still are wonderful people on here and if the friendships I've made and that continue to this day off the boards are any indication, this place was a godsend to many, including myself.  It really is the sign-in issues that have kept me and the friends of mine off the boards.  I do hope that they figure out the issues and repair them.  I'd love to see iVillage return what it was.  The only difference IMO right now is the low traffic. 

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iVillage Member
Registered: 06-06-2001

I agree that the traffic is much less, and I, too, have had issues with signing in and being allowed to post replies or start conversations.

I have alerted CMMelissa, a community moderator, about this thread. She assured me that the sign in issues are top priority for the trouble shooting team. I know Jambalyia mentioned she had seen that posted somewhere, too.

In any case, while I wouldn't say I'm super close to anyone here, I have enjoyed the sense of community and feedback given. Even if I haven't posted a lot of my own issues, I know I've learned a lot and have respect for those who do share insights and opinions here.

I'm hopeful that the technical issues will be fixed soon and we can get back to more chatter :)

Liz


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Avatar for sunset5000
Community Leader
Registered: 10-10-2007

I read all 14 posts to this thread and wanted to share a few thoughts.

I am the CL of 2 boards and I truely hope anyone who visits my boards, feels supported and listened too.  I am sorry that some of you feel the support on iVillage has been lost over the years.  I don't have the answer to that, all I can say is that, I try my best to listen to what is said and respond in a non-judgemental way, with no criticism.  If anyone would like to stop by either of my boards, I will do my best to be available and supportive Smile

I have also been to a few boards that I personally found to be cruel and harsh, as another poster already mentioned.  I agree with the idea of when you are starting a thread, to specify that you would like to VENT, or not looking for advice, just someone to listen.  I think from my experience, many people don't want advice, that just want to be heard.  What do you all think?

From what I have been told, again already mentioned, iVillage is trying to fix the tech problems and the loggin issue many of us are experiencing.  I believe that when the change began many months ago, the tech issues were not anticipated at all.  I know it is frustrating to be logged on one minute, then you change screens and you have to log on again.  I believe there is a log in mainly if you are using Internet Explorer, which I was told, that is what they are currently working on.  You can temporarly try to use Google Crome or Firefox.  I myself prefer Internet Explorer, but have to use Google until it is fixed.  I was not on iVillage those years ago when a few posters mentioned there was more support and even family like place to come.  I hope those who have left out of frustration, will come back at some point and maybe it can be like it was 11 years ago?

Any ideas of how to make the boards more supportive?

I am trying to be helpful.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-25-2008

I personally haven't had a lot of issues with ivillage but I have read that other people have. From time to time it may take me a few tries to log in and sometimes things load slowly but otherwise I am good.

I think that the nature of people's comments to anything online have changed over the years. People have thrown manners/empathy out the door and now use the anonymity of the internet (especially with sites like ivillage where you don't have to use your real name) to say any nasty or cruel thing they have ever wanted to say.

Brenda

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-17-2005
I just got tired of iVillage seemingly not listening to all the complaints about how downhill it's gone. Problems that were problems six months ago when I last posted here are STILL a problem. Yes, it's free but it was always free and not always this bad. Most online forums are free so I don't see why that matters anyway. And just because it's free doesn't mean we should continue to use it even when it frustrates us. I check back now and again to see if it's improved but it never has. All the changes over the recent years have only made things worse, driving more and more people away until all you're left with is the occasional passer-by who doesn't even seem to read the responses (sometimes, I'm not even sure they ever returned to the site), making the few regulars left feeling like we're wasting our time. No, our advice does not have to be taken but I would like to know the OP at least came back and read the responses, otherwise the place has just become a dumping ground.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-22-2004

I agree with the OP. Sometimes it is very hard for me to log in. I have been a member here for a long time and I miss when I used to get an emal if someone posted in my OP. I guess this was made to force us ussers to   get into the page again. I miss the way it was and it has been for me also a great support group in hard times. There are things you don´t feel free to tell family members or even close friends. Gossip is a big problem and also judging. So I felt free to mention my concerns to people I don´t even know and who most of the time have been supportive and seldom judgmental. I MISS THE BOARD WE HAD BEFORE.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-22-2004

I agree with the OP. Sometimes it is very hard for me to log in. I have been a member here for a long time and I miss when I used to get an emal if someone posted in my OP. I guess this was made to force us ussers to   get into the page again. I miss the way it was and it has been for me also a great support group in hard times. There are things you don´t feel free to tell family members or even close friends. Gossip is a big problem and also judging. So I felt free to mention my concerns to people I don´t even know and who most of the time have been supportive and seldom judgmental. I MISS THE BOARD WE HAD BEFORE.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-22-2004

I agree with the OP. Sometimes it is very hard for me to log in. I have been a member here for a long time and I miss when I used to get an emal if someone posted in my OP. I guess this was made to force us ussers to   get into the page again. I miss the way it was and it has been for me also a great support group in hard times. There are things you don´t feel free to tell family members or even close friends. Gossip is a big problem and also judging. So I felt free to mention my concerns to people I don´t even know and who most of the time have been supportive and seldom judgmental. I MISS THE BOARD WE HAD BEFORE.