Who's being inconsiderate? Me or my mother?

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Registered: 06-11-2002
Who's being inconsiderate? Me or my mother?
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Sat, 03-17-2012 - 1:39pm

My mother wants me to visit around Easter without DH.Meanwhile we both work full-time jobs and its one of the rare weekends we may both have off together

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Registered: 06-11-2002
Sat, 03-24-2012 - 4:14pm

Yes its true in other situations but I'll just leave it at that

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Registered: 02-14-2004
Fri, 03-23-2012 - 1:44pm

>>She's just trying to control you.

I don't think that's necessarily true.

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Registered: 06-11-2002
Fri, 03-23-2012 - 11:26am
My husband has said the same thing in the past and his best friend made a comment about my mother being possibly "toxic" years ago.I will bite the bullet and try to visit for one overnight by myself that weekend not 2,sorry but shes not getting the whole weekend.She and my father chose to move out of state with reason(to afford a house) but she did push him and when he was still alive,he even mentioned something like had he out-lived her(hes been gone for 10 years),he wanted to come back to NY.
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Registered: 02-23-2010
Fri, 03-23-2012 - 9:03am
Don't fall prey to your Mother's guilt! She's just trying to control you. Live your life your way.

San
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Fri, 03-23-2012 - 2:34am

She talked to DH yesterday and I guess is laying the guilt thing about me not calling lately.I mean its not like I call other people and not her.I don't even have friends or time for any

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Registered: 02-14-2004
Thu, 03-22-2012 - 1:15pm

I'm curious...why did you begin the conversation asking whether it was you or your mother

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Registered: 06-11-2002
Thu, 03-22-2012 - 11:10am

Thanks for the responses.My husband is actually the more difficult one about leaving the dog then me

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Registered: 01-13-2010
Wed, 03-21-2012 - 8:03am

I can totally relate to the dog issue.

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Registered: 02-14-2004
Sun, 03-18-2012 - 11:10pm

I agree, San.

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Registered: 02-23-2010
Sun, 03-18-2012 - 9:20am
It sounds like both of you are being stubborn...a power struggle if you will. If you don't want to go to her home kindly decline. All of this drama is unnecessary drama.

San

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