Why??

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Registered: 02-23-2010
Why??
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Thu, 03-01-2012 - 10:02am
Why do most people find it awkward or difficult to confront family or friends in order to right a wrong that is interfering in a relationship? Many of the solutions to everyday problems is communication but why are we so afraid to use it??

San
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Registered: 08-10-2010
In reply to: swimercise
Thu, 03-01-2012 - 1:57pm

A very thought provoking question, swimercise.

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Registered: 09-19-2002
In reply to: swimercise
Fri, 03-02-2012 - 7:49pm

Sometimes it makes the relationship worse....it really depends on the people involved and the situation.

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Registered: 08-10-2010
In reply to: swimercise
Fri, 03-02-2012 - 10:41pm

Good point.

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Registered: 05-03-2011
In reply to: swimercise
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 4:17pm

Hi,Ive cut and pasted this from the other site of dealing with inlaws where another Ivillage member wrote about "favouritism'

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Registered: 08-10-2010
In reply to: swimercise
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 5:14pm

>Some women are incapable of giving.<

This doesn't just apply to women - some men are also incapable of giving.

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Registered: 03-28-2010
In reply to: swimercise
Wed, 03-07-2012 - 11:22am

Since I am currently dealing with & my future MIL (regarding "our wedding", when she thinks it's her wedding), I would like to have a 'sit down' with her & try to let her understand "our POV", BUT, there are 2 reasons that may not make it possible:

Like Azure stated:

"I think one reason might be that people are generally afraid of rocking the boat and damaging a relationship."

I simply, don't want to start off on 'the wrong foot' with MIL & I honestly don't know how she will react? I may make the situation worse.

And two:" As much as people claim to want honesty, most of the time they really can’t handle it and they get defensive."

I have also had experience with this, being totally honest with SIL, after we didn't speak for about 6 months (which, quite honestly, made me happy to be away from her, but she was upset & wanted our friendship back), so I told her everything for the previous 4 years, that really upset me, and she wasn't happy that I was being honest OR that I felt that way toward her?! So did me, being honest with her help any? No, she got very

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend