Is it me or can anyone relate to this?
hellooo....get a clue lol. . There is no way one can continue to blame others and be in denial if they aren't enabled and one has to just has to be selective about who they allow into that circle.
On a few occasions, when growing up, I've heard my mother say about adult children, something like, "The one who does the least/doesn't bother with their parents much is more/better thought of than the others."I wonder if she experienced something similar or if it was an observation becaue she never elaborated on that further.
Oh that is sad that your MIL wasn't there for your DH when he could have used it.
I think it's human nature for people to try harder with the illusive one. Personally, I don't see the logic in that. People end up hurting others who are always "there" for them when they are busy persuing the other child.
I can relate. My oldest sister doesn't give a d___ about what my parents think. My parents are divorced and my dad doesn't really care. My dad has his own life with a step daughter of his own. My mom is heart broken. My sister is the only daughter she has out of 4 kids. My mom never had much use for boys. She had no patience for us getting dirty, getting hurt, collecting bugs and our fascination with fireworks. And this carries through to today.
I had to laugh when I read your post.
Yes, I think it is VERY often the case where the child who doesn't give a hoot gets the most attention.