Why do my parents ALWAYS.....

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Why do my parents ALWAYS.....
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Sun, 12-11-2011 - 12:29pm

have to 'burst my bubble'?!

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend

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Sun, 12-11-2011 - 12:59pm

I've been thinking about it....&, altho I am soooooooo disappointed, with my dad's reaction? it's sadly expected!!

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend

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Sun, 12-11-2011 - 1:12pm
You can't live your life for your parents. I'd try to be as understanding as you can, as you did have a serious condition and after all, they are just concerned for your well being. I think you've made a wise choice in deciding to limit what you share with them in the future. I hope that helps!
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Sun, 12-11-2011 - 3:07pm

I'd be concerned if my daughter (who didn't have a brain tumor) became pregnant at 43 years old.

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Registered: 02-23-2010
Sun, 12-11-2011 - 3:30pm

Sounds like typical controlling parents....my first suggestion is share less of your life with them to reduce the unnecessary comments.

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Sun, 12-11-2011 - 4:18pm
At least their motives come from love and concern for you. And I do think their concerns are somewhat understandable (though that is not to say I think you've made the wrong choices). It could be worse, they could be negative because they are mean spirited but I don't get the impression that's the case.

I think they probably are happy for you at the same time - you say they adore their granddaughter, I'm sure they will adore their next grandchild just as much. They're probably just shocked and worried about it - that's pretty normal for parents.
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Sun, 12-11-2011 - 4:46pm

Yeah, thanks y'all for the comments.....I will have to be guarded, with what I share.

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend

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Mon, 12-12-2011 - 11:14am

Well, I am very proud to say, after I told my Dad, then he talked with my Mom, my Mom was mature enough to call me and say "congratulations"!

That was a happy momment for me!

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend

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Mon, 12-12-2011 - 5:58pm

Congratulations! I am sorry they couldn't react with excitement.

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Tue, 12-13-2011 - 7:31pm
Congratulations on your new baby! I wish you all the best and way to go "Grandma"!

I do understand your parents' reaction though as a parent of adults myself. I'm not a controlling parent at all but my first reaction would be fear of losing my own baby which is what you will always be to your parents. As someone else said, they adore your DD and so they will adore this baby too. Just remember fear plays a big part in how a parent reacts even when we are grown up.

Dee
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Registered: 01-03-2004
Wed, 12-14-2011 - 6:31am

Hi,

Stop trying to please your parents. They will believe what they believe. The will "react" the way they will react. You've got to learn that you will never have their approval and that that is OK.

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