Why do they always blame the children???

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Registered: 10-05-2008
Why do they always blame the children???
Tue, 08-02-2011 - 12:31pm

Okay i just would like some opinions...I see all of these advice articles in the paper about parents writing in about how there children have disowned them....and the advice is it's always the children fault... Don't people realize that there is always two sides to the story and it's not always the childrens fault.

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Tue, 08-02-2011 - 1:14pm
Maybe the advice articles always blame the children, but not here. I've been on both sides of the coin with my parents and then with my 22 y.o. son. (I can't make paragraphs right now for some reason, so I'll keep this short) Why did you not go to your dream school? It's never too late, right. Are you working towards that? I think the best way, if there's even a way at all, for you to improve the relationship with your mother is to get away from her. Put some serious distance between you two.


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Registered: 03-30-2007
Tue, 08-02-2011 - 1:48pm

My Mom and I have butted heads for more years than I can count.

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Registered: 10-05-2008
Tue, 08-02-2011 - 2:57pm

yes I have decided to just go and attend my dream school...bc staying here isn't keeping me happy.....I'm working at a dead - end job with lousy pay......But if your family really loved you why would

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Tue, 08-02-2011 - 3:14pm


And congrats on going to your dream school.

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Registered: 06-06-2001
Tue, 08-02-2011 - 4:45pm
I guess I don't read the same columns you've read, but I will say that though I am estranged from my parents for very good reasons, I am still grateful that I learned some things growing up under their roof, like how to be proud of myself and my achievements and be self supporting. Maybe the columns you're seeing are about spoiled kids who don't appreciate what they were given when they were young, even though I tend to think spoiling kids isn't really good for them either. In any case, I do think my parents did the best they could at times--unfortunately, it still wasn't healthy for me, and I did make the choice to not be involved with them. I'm not ashamed that I made that choice, even if others "blame" me for it.


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