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|Sat, 11-22-2003 - 12:37pm|
The thing is this. I have a sister who is divorced; she and her new boyfriend, who is also divorced, like to go out very much, to the movies, to the mall, to eat, to know a new mall in town, etc. They go out every weekend. My sister, her boyfriend an me, all are around the same age.
There are times especially on a Saturday or Sunday, which I always stay at home, that they do go out but instead of asking me if I want to join them, instead they ask a cousin of us (me and my sister’s cousin) and my 8yrd cousin’s daughter. My cousin does not have to call them or being after them to check what they are doing on a weekend to get invited; my sister does that out of her own will. On the contrary, I have to call my sister and ask her if we could go to the movies or check what she is doing on a weekend because I’m bored. My sister hangs out with her boyfriend, and they invite my cousin and her daughter to go out, instead Im the one who has to be after my sister and tell her why don’t we go out some day to the movies. Just like 3 times I have gone out with my sister and my brother in law, but those occasions have been because I was the one asking them, not the other way around.
For example today my cousin, her daughter, my sister and her boyfriend went to know a new mall in town and went to the movies. By any chance they took me into account or at least ask me if I want to go? Nothing of that happened and they knew I was going to stay home. I know that because in the morning my sister, my cousin came to the house to pick up a thing my sister forgot the day before she came to visit, and my sister’s boyfriend was waiting outside with the car, because soon they had to leave to the mall.
I feel like a left out sometimes because I was always the one who has to ask my sister that why don’t we hang out, my sister out of her own will, don’t do it. Instead, my cousin does not have to ask my sister, my sister takes her into account.
Im not a remorseful person but sometimes it does not feel right. I have never brought this issue up to my sister, because she will say that why I say that if we have hanged out together several times, I should not be complaining, that is why I never tell my sister anything.