Wow i managed to do it...

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wow i managed to do it...
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Thu, 05-01-2003 - 4:46pm
Hi

I used to live in Germany when i was a kid due to my dad being in the Air Force. My uncle (moms brother) has lived here since the early 60s. I met him when i was a kid. I live in Germany now with my husband. Well when i visit him he pays for everything and treats me like i am still 8 years old. This week i visited him and took some cash out of my purse and put it in my jacket pocket so i wouldnt need to take my whole purse out. He told me I dont need money and i would loose it. I finally said to him I know he means well but i am not 8 anymore and am 30, an adult and i could take responsibility for my money.

He actually apologized and said it was a habit and he still acts the big brother with his sisters (all 5 of them)and he would try not to do that in the future. Finally i know i can visit him without stressing because he treats me like a kid. Im just proud i finally spoke up.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Thu, 05-01-2003 - 5:38pm
Good for you!!!

Isn't it amazing how we can revert back to our child like selves around family. They still think of us as children and treat us that way and so we end up acting that way. And then we think about it later and want to change the cycle but it just keeps happening.

You broke out of the mold and better yet he responded well!!

Melissa