Friend's child is rude
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|Sun, 05-26-2013 - 11:41pm|
I have a close friend whose daughter is 3 1/2. We spent a good bit of time together, and lately I have found myself not wanting to do things with my friend when her daughter comes along. There are a couple of issues.
1. The daughter is very often rude to me and my friend doesn't do anything about it. As an example, today the daughter said her tummy hurt. I said "Oh, no, your tummy hurts??" And she yelled at me, "No!! I'm telling Mommy, not you!" My friend said nothing. She seems to think this is just how 3 year olds behave.
2. The daughter interrupts almost constantly when we're talking. Not only does my friend not tell her to wait her turn to speak, she totally forgets that we were even having a conversation and gets involved in whatever the daughter is doing.
3. My friend allows the daughter to dictate what we do, allows her behavior to change the plan at the last minute. As in, we agree on Plan A, daughter objects ten minutes before we go, so we change to Plan B, then she changes her mind and it's back to Plan A at the last minute.
I realize that the little girl is 3 and none of this is her fault. I also realize I could at least be asserting myself when it comes to plans changing and will do so in the future. I just feel my friend should be shutting a lot of this behavior down. I haven't been able to think of a way to bring it up with her without it sounding like I'm telling her how to raise her child. However, it is having a negative impact on our friendship because a) we can't have conversations and b) I just plain don't want to hang out with them a lot of the time. That's important too.
Anyone else have this problem, and how do you handle it?