My friend fancies me

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Registered: 02-13-2010
My friend fancies me
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Thu, 11-01-2012 - 3:09am

I'm a single woman and made a new friend a few months ago who is also single. We got on well because we had quite a few things in common and I have been to stay at her's a couple of times as we don't leave near eachother. 

She has recently become overbearing and texting me constantly to the point where I find it very annoying. I started a course of study last month and am busy with work but her texting persists despite me trying to explain that I'm busy. 

I had my suspicions that she may have wanted more than friendship by the content of her texts and the other night after she'd had a few drinks she told me she fancies me and wants me. I have had flings with women in the past so am no way prudish about these issues but I really don't know how I can continue to be her friend under these circumstances as now feel awkward about the situation.

Plus the constant texting and emails continue and it's driving me mad. I'm considering talking to her and ending the friendship but don't know what to do.

Cremebrulee xx

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Thu, 11-01-2012 - 7:43am

I think ending the friendship would be wise. Not only does this make you uncomfortable but it would be best for her as well. It's almost impossible to get over feelings for someone when you're in touch with them regularly. For her own sake as much as yours, it would be best if you went your separate ways. For now, at least. Maybe some day well in the future when she has moved on you can be platonic friends again.

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Registered: 01-22-2004
Wed, 11-14-2012 - 11:59pm

UUUUUUUH! aHHHHH! That has never happened to be and I would feel very akward. What was your reply when she told you that? Where you clear that you are not interested in anything else? Probably that was not clear for her, and that`s why she is insisting. Be clear with her and probably you have to distance from her. About the emails, you can block her email adress, so you don´t get any more. About the texts. You can reply "I´m not interested". If she continues, just delete the text. Eventualy she will get tired and move on.

Good luck!

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Registered: 02-13-2010
Sat, 11-24-2012 - 4:54pm

I told her I do not feel the same way about her. Constant texts continued so I told her I'm extremely busy at the moment (I am with work and also a course I'm doing) but texts continuing. She really won't give up ! Unfortunately I have had to resort to ignoring the majority of her texts and the other night she was phoning me constantly (I left the answerphone on so didn't have to answer her). She asked if I'd like to meet up soon so I explained I was busy. Hoping that she'll give up soon but feel that she doesn't pick up on cues. I have a feeling she's very lonely and bored. If this continues I feel I'll have to have it out with her and defriend her on Facebook and call it a day. Fortunately she doesn't live near me so there's no danger I'll bump into her !