My Neighbor UGH!

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Registered: 09-16-2007
My Neighbor UGH!
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Wed, 11-07-2012 - 4:07am

My neighbor's boyfriend or whatever he is to her was parked behind my car washing their car and bassing their music at 9:00AM! My husband works night shift at the nursing home and he was trying to sleep when they disturbed him. So I called the cops and he got mad at me. He said all I had to do was talk to him! We just moved into this duplex I do not know the neighbors and I did not feel confortable talking to him! I am friendly but not when you disturb me and my husband when we are sleeping at 9:00AM!

Christina

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Registered: 03-28-2010
Thu, 11-08-2012 - 11:26am

In my expreience, I have had 2 different confrontations with neighbors.  My next step will be to call the cops, if the neighbors, repeat what I was bothered about.  I agree with UKgirl, to try to handle 'whatever' situation with neighbor 1st and if that doesn't resolve problem? then call the cops.....if cops are called 1st, then, I feel it presents more problems.

I do agree it is disrespectful to other neighbors to blast music, early in the morning....but not everybody (unfortuanately) thinks that way.  Sorry for your frustrations!

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend

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Registered: 10-14-2003
Thu, 11-08-2012 - 8:33am

It sounds like you lived in an area that was known for not being quiet.  The OP's neighbourhood doesn't sound that way.

Perhaps it's because I've been around the block and have dealt with upteen nightmare neighbours, including one that thought it was okay to begin renovations and hammering in his apartment kitchen at midnight on a Tuesday, but if someone thinks it is okay to blast their bass at 9am on any given day and in a neighbourhood that is quiet, I don't think they are owed or should expect the benefit of the doubt.  It's flat out disrespectful to do that to neighbours even if it's midday.  There is a community expectation to put up with noise in any neighbourhood, but that doesn't extend to subjecting neighbours to loud music and rattling windows.  It's rude.  I can see the point about the neighbour being surprised at the cops showing up, but that was a damned good way to show them that it isn't appropriate without going to them and asking them to stop with the possibility that they will just do it again.  I've BTDT.  I understand the OP's POV regarding being uncomfortable in going to the neighbour she doesn't know to ask them to turn it down.  If they're going to display that kind of disregard for their neighbours and blast music that early, then it isn't a far stretch to expect that they flat out tell you to pound salt and continue on or do it again another time.  The OP's method was quick, dirty, and to the point.  After having dealt with loads of disrespectful neighbours in the past, I think that approach is efficient and gets the job done. 

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Registered: 09-17-2005
Thu, 11-08-2012 - 6:12am

I'm sorry but I have to agree with your neighbor. Calling the cops seems like a drastic measure to take when you didn't even attempt other avenues first. So what if you don't know him? Why does that make you uncomfortable? Were you afraid of him or something? It just seems to me that it could have been much more easily resolved if you'd just politely asked him to turn it down and explained that your husband is trying to sleep since he works night shifts.

Was this during the week? Because I think it's fair to assume most people would be up and at work by 9am. Your neighbor is not psychic and can not possibly have known that your husband works nights and would be sleeping at 9am. It's entirely possible that had you just let him know, he would have been apologetic and much more considerate. Even if it was on a weekend, I don't think 9am is unreasonably early. I live in an area where there are frequent public events and there are noise restrictions but only before 9am. So some weekends, I get woken up at 9am on the nose when they are allowed to turn on music and make announcements over the loud speakers. It's annoying if I wanted to sleep later but it's still an extra hour of sleep since I get up at 8am for work so I do not consider it "too" early. 

Put yourself in his position... imagine you were doing something that unknowingly was disturbing someone and the next thing you know, you're being confronted by the police! Would you not be a little upset, knowing that had the person just come to you and politely asked you to stop, you would have been more than happy to do so? Involving the police was unnecessary and probably embarassing. Not to mention, you kind of wasted the police's time by having them do something you could have done on your own. I know that noise disturbances are a part of their job description but typically only if there is nothing you can do about it on your own. But you didn't even try to resolve it yourself first.

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Registered: 10-14-2003
Wed, 11-07-2012 - 1:38pm

There are a few ways to look at this.  First is to introduce yourself to your neighbour and ask them to keep it down, establishing yourself as someone that will address issues.  The other is not to bother trying to resolve issues with someone who thinks it is at all acceptable to blast music with heavy bass at 9am.  I tend to go with the latter of the two schools of thought.  If someone is too ignorant to think that blasting their music that early in the day won't upset at least some of their neighbours, then I'm sorry but they don't deserve the benefit of the doubt.  I wouldn't care if my neighbour was upset with me for calling the police and not going to them.  They're, AFAIAC, the idiots for bringing upon this situation and have no right to be angry with the person whose peaceful enjoyment of their property was interupted by THEIR discourteous and un-neighbourly behavior.

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