My Neighbor UGH!

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Registered: 09-16-2007
My Neighbor UGH!
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Wed, 11-07-2012 - 4:07am

My neighbor's boyfriend or whatever he is to her was parked behind my car washing their car and bassing their music at 9:00AM! My husband works night shift at the nursing home and he was trying to sleep when they disturbed him. So I called the cops and he got mad at me. He said all I had to do was talk to him! We just moved into this duplex I do not know the neighbors and I did not feel confortable talking to him! I am friendly but not when you disturb me and my husband when we are sleeping at 9:00AM!

Christina

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Registered: 09-16-2007
Sun, 06-30-2013 - 9:52pm

Update my annoying neighbors moved about two or three months ago! It has been so peaceful here and I love my new neighbors!!! They are so quiet and very nice. It is a single mom and her two kids.

Christina

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Registered: 09-16-2007
Sun, 03-10-2013 - 7:57am

My neighbor's boyfriend is not on the lease so he has no rights to blare his music! But he has been nice to me lately so I have no problems with him now! He has not blared his anymore. I glad cause his disabled vehicle in my parking space tags are going to be expired in April and I am going call city code enforcement to have the vehicle removed. It is just plain rude for him to park his disable vehicle in my space and he is not even on the lease. This is a duplex at the time my husband was working night shift and it was 9:00AM when he was blaring his music. My husband just got off work at 6:00AM and was trying to sleep.

 

Christina

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Registered: 08-09-2010
Sun, 02-03-2013 - 10:09am

I live in a co-op and we have a "handbook" written by our board of directors.  It says we cannot have loud TV or music coming btwn apartment walls between 10 pm and 9 am.  9 is not early!!!  What day did your neighbor wash his car?  I agree with your neighbor too.  If I am sick and I want to sleep before the 10 pm curfew, I wear ear plugs.  

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Registered: 09-16-2007
Tue, 11-27-2012 - 6:31am

UKgirl you can disagree with me all you want! I was right in what I did to the neighbors! I call the non-emergency line! I will not put up with disrespectful people! He can give me dirty looks all he wants but I am not the one got a lease violation! Plus I would not been nice to the guy I was really pissed off for him waking me and my husband up! 9:00AM is to damn early for bassing music! I am glad the cops came before I got really ugly and said something to him I would regretted! Then my other neighbor knocked on my door asking for money! The other neighbor leaves their front door wide open and yelled at her son for my dogs barking at him! I was like lady how is it your son fault for my dogs barking at him! She needs to calm down and realize dogs bark at people for no reason! I try to keep them quiet! I feel sorry for her son they seem like dysfunctional people! They yell at the boy alot for no reason! I do not have money to give people we live pay check to pay check!

Christina

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Tue, 11-27-2012 - 5:51am

Okay he really does not live there he is just the boyfriend of my neighbor and he stays the night alot! If your asleep your not going to be nice to the neighbor's boyfriend causing the loud noises disrupting your sleep! My husband works from 10:00PM to 6:00AM he is tired and plus it was week day! They got lease violation cause they pushed a non-working vehicle were I was parking and for bassing! They have calmed down not bassed since then cause they know better! I wrote them a letter explaining why I called the cops! They would not like it if I bassed either or parked a non-working vehicle were they were parking! First of all this is a Duplex and my bedroom faces the parking area were he was bassing! It is a city code that you can not bass loud! I talked to the people that manage the property they are the ones that told me to call the police! My neighbors did not introduce themselfs to me or my husband so that told me they are not friendly people that is why I am not confortable talking to them! This was when we first moved in October! I am friendly person and like my neighbors to introduce themselfs to me so I know who lives in the neighborhood! What is not right is she leaves her chihuahua in the backyard with no shelter when it is very cold outside! Plus he was whinning it made me very sad cause he was cold, hungry, and thirsty! You all need to understand you never know what people could do to you if tell them to be quiet! I was being cautious cause there are alot of dangerous people out there! We had great neighbors were we use to lived!

Christina

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Fri, 11-23-2012 - 4:45pm

I think you should have talked to them first and if the situation wasn't resolved, then call the police.  I can't stand those loud bass-booming car stereos at ANY time.

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Wed, 11-14-2012 - 11:45pm

In my case, the least thing I would like, is to have problems with neighbors. You might not like it, but you did your entrance with an aggressive action. The problem with this, is that you can gain an enemy for the rest of your life there. It looks to me that if you listen a kid playing outside and disturbing you, you go out and slam his face.

This people weren´t doing that un purpouse to disturb you. I would have go out and mention them that my husband works until late hours and that weekends are looked forward to sleep late, so you would appreciate to take that into consideration. If they don´t listen then you can escale in your actions.But calling the police, on the first time IMPO, was aggressive and not assertive.

I try to act with people in an assetive way, if not for them, for my own sake!

Assertive( defend my own rights, without stepping on others rights)

Good luck!

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Fri, 11-09-2012 - 2:56pm
I have to agree with your neighbor too. My first thought is that while blasting music any time of the day is not cool, I am not sure that 9am is a 'bad' time for him to have it on to at least some extent. It is not your neighbor's problem that your bf sleeps days and works nights. If it is not music playing, it could be a car horn or a conversation between people walking down the street. I am not big on calling the police for minor things. Or for anything, for that matter, that is not a safety/violence issue. Neighbor situations can frequently be worked out by being an adult and going to speak to the person who is doing what you think is wrong, without wasting the time of the police who have better things to do. I would much prefer a neighbor politely say "hey, can you do me a favor and turn down the music for a couple of hours?" than have the police show up. I would turn down my music and be glad he approached me rather than having someone else fight his battles for him. Just my one and a half cents, take it for what it is worth. I used to live by a person who called the police on neighbor's for little things. After a couple of trips, the police had him pegged as the problem, and they were biased, as they should be, by the time they arrived to the person's house. They showed us once the screen "I am not going to tell you who called, though it is on this screen here..." because they had the hopes that we would work it out, and we did, by letting the neighbor know that a) stop calling, come talk to us and b) we know it is you being a coward. He stopped calling on dumb little things and the police knew that if someone did call, it was a serious matter, not a Mrs. Kravitz.
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Thu, 11-08-2012 - 6:49pm

LOL. 

If someone in my neighbourhood did such a thing, I'd be more worried about them facing the reaction of the people that work the graveyard shift than I ever would about the police.  In fact, calling the police would be doing them a great favour (and luckily our next door neighbour is the council for our Ward so no worries there).  Being a considerate neighbour means growing out of the myopia that everyone works the 9 to 5 or isn't home ill, caring for kids, sick parents, working from home, etc.  Want to play music?  Sure, go for it.  Want to play it so loud that it jolts neighbours inside their homes?  That's a jerk that's already made enemies of their neighbours and deserves the exact same kind of consideration.  Thankfully we have neighbours that aren't so immature and thoughtless.

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Thu, 11-08-2012 - 5:31pm

paradigmshifter wrote:
<p>It sounds like you lived in an area that was known for not being quiet.  The OP's neighbourhood doesn't sound that way.</p>

Actually, my area is fairly quiet, it's only the occasional public event that causes noise. The point is that by 9am, most people are up and about, even on weekends. Most businesses are open by that time, public events begin, the sun is up, the day has begun! In my experience, it's not considered THAT early by most people, regardless of where you live. 

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<p>Perhaps it's because I've been around the block and have dealt with upteen nightmare neighbours, including one that thought it was okay to begin renovations and hammering in his apartment kitchen at midnight on a Tuesday,

Yes, perhaps it is. It sounds like you're quick to jump all over a noisey neighbor because of your past bad experiences. But that doesn't mean everyone is like that - it could have all been easily resolved with no hard feelings had the OP just politely asked him to turn down the music. But because of your past experiences, you're no longer willing to give people the benefit of the doubt and try to be polite first. You're entitled to think they don't deserve the benefit of the doubt but that kind of attitude and behavior like calling the cops without even speaking to them first will only cause animosity between you and the people you have to live around. If that's what you want, carry on but in my opinion, it's only going to cause more problems that could have been easily avoided. Whether they deserve the benefit of the doubt or not, if I can easily avoid additional grief by creating an enemy, I think it's worth it. 

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but if someone thinks it is okay to blast their bass at 9am on any given day and in a neighbourhood that is quiet, I don't think they are owed or should expect the benefit of the doubt.  It's flat out disrespectful to do that to neighbours even if it's midday.

LOL okay, that's just totally unreasonable. No one is allowed to play music outside even in the middle of the day? Clearly, you want total silence in your neighborhood 24/7 and that's just not realistic. If that's what you want, you will only be happy in a very rural area where there are no neighbors within hearing distance. If that's attainable for you, good luck with it!

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