Question about women and friendships and calling your friends
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|Mon, 09-24-2012 - 11:41am|
I had seen this topic awhile back, but something happened a couple weeks ago that has me thinking about it again.
My friend "Ann" and I were very good friends. We would see each other regularly. And talk on the phone often - a few times a week. When one of my kids was very sick - in and out of the hospital sick - I stopped calling a lot of friends. I just wasn't in the mood, and felt I didn't have anything positive to say.
I don't remember if Ann even knew he was sick. Probably not, because I wasn't the one calling her. And it occurred to me that I had been the one to always - and I do mean always - make the call.
Months passed - no call. And I decided then that obviously, the friendship was convenient as long as I was doing the calling. So I never called. Who wants to be the one always making the effort?
About two weeks ago, I ran into a mutual friend and she said, "Ann said she hasn't talked to you in two years." To which I thought (but didn't say) "Then Ann should pick up the phone!"
Do other women have this issue? About who does the calling?
I'm wondering if I should call Ann and explain all of this to her. It seems petty, yet it's something that obviously bothers me.