What do I do about this friend

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Registered: 06-18-2011
What do I do about this friend
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Wed, 11-14-2012 - 7:20pm

I have this long distance friend who always wants to talk a lot more frequently than I can or want to. I have explained that to her but the way it always goes is that she will call, I call her back a week or two later and the call always has to last 1 1/2 to 2 hours so this is a call I really have to schedule for. After that I always feel that she should be satisfied for at least a couple of weeks but that's never the case. She always calls again a week after we talk so I end up feeling like I always have a pending phone call I have to make and I'm starting to wish she would just go away. I'm busy raising a family and trying to live my life and hate the feeling that there is always a chore (the phone call) that never gets done. Any suggestions? Thanks.

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Registered: 09-17-2005
Thu, 11-15-2012 - 6:59am

Well, you don't HAVE to call her back. How good of a friend is she? I suppose if it was one of my very good friends, I would try to make an effort to communicate in other ways instead - texting, emailing, FB, etc. And then maybe call her once a month or every other month to have a full conversation. If that is what is already happening then I don't think you're doing anything wrong and you shouldn't feel like you're putting anything off. It doesn't sound like she's annoyed or upset that you take a couple weeks to get back to her so I really wouldn't worry about it.

But if we weren't all that close of friends and she lived far away, I would probably just stop making the effort and allow yourselves to drift apart. 

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