I feel like Im useless
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|Sat, 03-08-2014 - 11:40pm|
My dad passed away one month ago due to Cancer. My dad was 3 yrs younger than my mom and my mom 77. I have 3 siblings. My older sister is married and lives on their own obviously, I have younger half sister who does not live with us and she lives on her won with an aunt (her mom passed away several yrs ago) me and my younger brother live in the same house with our mom. My parents are not grandparents as any of us have kids. My mom still works a the local municipality. Of course my mom and us still feel the absence of our dad as this event it is still very recent. Since my mom is 77 of course my brother and I have to take care of her more now and watch out for her. The thing is that my older sister is always reminding me and tell me; Take care of mom, be there for her for anything she needs, she needs our support.
I mean I know that from now on she needs all the help she can get and support and love, is not Im neglecting her but my sister telling me very often, remember to be with mom, be there fr her, take care of her, I feel like she assume Im not doing a good job so she keeps reminding me that every often Is like she does not trust me or believe I Im not doing a proper job and she has to remind of it as often as she wants. My older sister always is like attacking me that I do things in a bad way. I know my personality is strong and I have a strong character, and there are times Im always defensive she reminds of it very often. For example my voice tone is very loud and there are times that when I speak it could be a little loud and my sister gets mad at me for not lowering my tone when I speak. She tells me you have o llearn how to control your tone well this is beside this point Im talking about here.
I feel that my older sister does not trust me and she believe s Im not taking good care of mom or neglecting her so she believes she is in her right to remind me everyday, I know I am sleeping with mom so she is not alone in bed. My mom still drives and she sometimes like to be independent of course she is no super woman and we want to relieve her from doing certain things so she won’t get tired
I usually goes to d my aerobics every Sunday to work out and my sister tells me that I should not be going in order not to leave mom alone in the house as she may need something. Im nota neglecting our mom Im just attending some classes then I return home but working out distracts me. I don’t know but Im guessing my older sister tells me that caue Im the one living with mom and not hre so I be the one in charge along with my brother.
I mean my sister does not live at the house, she has her own house to take care of, not even my half sister tells me that, in fact she does not even get involved in teling me those things, well my mom is not my half sister mom so probably is the reason why she does not say anything I assume.