Is it possible to draw the line with inlaws when enough is enough?
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|Tue, 06-10-2014 - 2:55pm|
My brother-in-law is a jerk, plain and simple. Thinks of no one but himself, UNLESS you can be useful to him in some way. God forbid you slight him because he's all up in your face about how you wronged him and he deserves better and whatnot.
Now while I feel badly, because I hit my limit with him and refuse to have anything to do with him. I'm 36. I shouldn't have to swallow my feelings and be treated badly because he's my husband's brother. He also treats my husband the same way, but my husband, being the older brother, makes excuses for him: "That's just how he is." "He grew up differently." (He's techincally a half-sibling and when the parents separated he went with his mom, my husband with his dad.) And many more excuses. He's 38/39 years old and thinks the world owes him because his parents divorced when he was 7.
My question though is, while I know ideally family is family, can one really say "No, I absolutely will not put myself around him." and refuse to do so? It hasn't been just a year or two, it's been 18 years of this and it's just tiring. And believe me, I've tried. I've tried to ignore the snide comments, the better than though attitude, the woe is me crying. But there has just been too much hurt on my part that I just don't feel like I should have to put up with it anymore (not that we see them regularly - especially after the last fight).
I wish I could get my husband to understand that while he's fine with making excuses, I'm not. It's been far too long and waaaaay too many excuses. And now I'm not willing to invite them into my home. He thinks I should just pretend nothing ever happened.