Missing my married daughter
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|Mon, 06-23-2014 - 10:22pm|
This isn't really venting; it would just help to know that someone else has been through the same thing.
My daughter--my only child--was married last August. Until she became engaged, we had spoken almost every day of her life. When she went away to college, I prepared myself for how difficult it would be for me based on other mothers' comments, but it really was an easy adjustment, since we spoke every day. (Thank goodness for cell phones.) So I dodged the bullet then.
But once she became engaged, I hardly heard from her. I have to say that, all in one year, she became engaged, graduated from college, conducted a professional job search, started a new job, moved to a new city, and planned her wedding. So I never pressured her to talk; I knew she was swamped with things to deal with.
And, of course I understand that her husband comes first and he is now her new best friend, which is as it should be, and I'm happy as can be that she found someone to share her life with, but I miss her.
The worst part is that, now that we only talk for a few minutes twice a week, it's almost as if we have nothing to say to each other unless there's something really pressing. We used to talk about everything together. But now I feel as if I have such a short time to talk with her that in my mind I'm editng out all the things that aren't worth talking about during our precious time, and so I end up having hardly anthying to say. Sigh...