Need Advice about my older sister
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|Tue, 08-19-2014 - 4:54pm|
I'd like to say that I am grateful for finding a place to vent my frurstrations.
I'm trying to determine if my sister or I am the controlling person in our extended family. A few years back my sister and mother paid for our families to go to Disney World, myself and my son, my husband was unable to attend, my sister's son and his family. My sister and mother paid for us to go. When we got there, I voiced my opinion about what I, myself and my son would like to do. My sister would say no, my son and I have decided what we plan on doing. This happened often and Ifelt valueless and realized the only opinions or feelings that mattered were hers and her sons. My husband says that I should have gone along with whatever they wanted since they were paying.
Well, since that time because I chose to do my own thing with my son, my sister and mother no longer invite us on vacation. It seems that if I am not compliant, I am not invited whether I pay or not.
Aside from the above, my sister and mother go shopping every weekend. My sister goes to the same place every week for breakfast, my mother doesn't like the food there, so my mother has made a compromise by having a roll. My sister doesn't take her anywhere my mother might want to go for breakfast. While on vacation at a previous time before Disney World, we were not allowed to eat when we wanted, we were to wait until my sister was ready. When my sister and mother shop and my mother doesn't count her change quickly enough, my sister will take it out of her palm and do it for her. My mother is older, but not feeble.
Since Disney World I have withdrawn from my sister, we do so each other to play cards once a week and on special ocassions. We were closer before the Disney World event.
Was I wrong and should have gone along with whatever my sister/nephew told me what we will be doing?