Ruins My Birthday Every Year

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Registered: 10-26-2005
Ruins My Birthday Every Year
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Tue, 04-15-2014 - 8:50am

It's my 54th birthday tomorrow, and as usual my hubby ruins it for me and is being a complete ass.  I only got 4 hours sleep last night after working 14 hours straight - start at 8 am and home at 11 pm, and today will be no different.  Made it up to feed horses at 5 am because it was snowing and didn't want DH to have to do it by himself.  I am his third wife and I can see why he was married that many times.  Whenever times get tough, instead of getting down and helping I get kicked in the teeth.  ok, yes, I am feeling sorry for myself so all of you blast me I don't think I could feel worse than I do right now.  I really don't even need to be on here but I did need to vent.  Just have to make it through the work day to midnight and my overtime I've been doing the last 6 months will stop.  I'm just sick of feeling like a doormat!  I haven't had to be on here for about 5 years.  Why now???!!!  And if men are so sick of things they want a divorce, why don't they take the initiative??!!!  If this keeps going like my last marriage did, he's going to push me into it which I hate!!!!!!

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 04-15-2014 - 11:02am

How did your DH ruin your birthday?  It might help to explain your relationship a little more or to post on the Relationship Problems sections.

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Registered: 02-13-2006
Thu, 04-17-2014 - 7:53pm

Divorce is NOT hell..but it's NOT getting a divorce that is.You sound very unhappy miserable and you NEED to get out. Why can't you initiate a divorce?Why are you waiting on him? Obvously the one who is always causing heartache is the one that NEVER leaves..why should they? They're the ones sitting pretty.Your b-day should be for YOU to enjoy and pamper yourself.You stated that this has been going on for YEARS...only you can stop the madness...good luck.

oh and happy be-lated b-day.