Sex intervention

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Registered: 05-01-2013
Sex intervention
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Sat, 06-21-2014 - 1:50am

I have been friends for 2 years with a young girl. Im 9 years older than her and im very independent. She has a child not one yrs old yet and now shes homeless. She quit her job because she didnt feel like doing it anymore. I personally never feel like going to work but have no choice...I like money.

She is begging me to get pregnant so our kids can be friends and same age, which is NOT happenining. I explain I want make a serious life choice on the fact that my friend is prego. Children cost money.  Our mutal friends begged her to concerate on the baby and school. She agreed to take a break from men. But not for long...she quit school and work, so she has sex all day and the baby is away with its father. Now shes newly pregnant again and doesnt know who the father is. She mets random guy on the internet and met up for sex. We chatted how she needs help, she says she knows. How people get fustrated and want a cigerette well she wants a "D" in her mouth (her words exactly).

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Sat, 06-21-2014 - 9:33am

A "D" in the mouth doesn't get one pregnant!  It is one thing to be irresponsible with one's own body.  Bringing innocent lives into the world when she has no mean to support them is criminal.

I think she needs professional help.  Short of that, once her pregnancy is over, is there a wya for you to at least convince her to get contraceptives?  Prefereably an inplant or IUD that last a long time as most likely she will stop ro "forget" to take the pills.  They will not prevent her from getting STDs, but at least she will not get pregnant.

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Registered: 08-25-2013
Mon, 06-23-2014 - 12:41pm

She sounds like some kind of skank to me. What decent person behaves this way? She's headed for some serious trouble down the road. I think I would find a new friend.

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Registered: 03-31-2014
Mon, 06-23-2014 - 2:05pm

Since we only know what you've said and we can't possibly know all sides of the story, it's not right to call her names. :( Whether my friend was behaving irrationally or not, I'd be sad if people called her names.

Sexual addiction IS a thing and it sounds like she might have it. Also, you don't say how old you are, just that you are 9 years older. Is she a young woman? It sounds like she still has a teen mindset, so it's possible she hasn't matured. Since she's stated she knows she's addicted, maybe suggest she look into Sex Addicts Anonymous. Here's the link for meetings in the US: https://saa-recovery.org/Meetings/UnitedStates/. Perhaps you could get her to focus on her kids somehow and lay in heavily about sexually transmitted diseases, and so on. 

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Registered: 05-01-2013
Sun, 07-20-2014 - 10:44pm

now we are on baby number three, the second one she says she had "the procedure".