Should we continue to support her even if she is our half sister?
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|Tue, 03-18-2014 - 12:40pm|
Like I have said in other posts, My dad passed away 1 month ago (due to cancer). My dad due to a infidelity many many years ago I have a half sister, as a dad of course my dad never neglected my half sister economically, he always supported her. My half sister does not live with me, my mom or my brother; She lives by herself now as her grandmother who took care of her after her mom died several years ago also died. Even if she lives by herself, I know she has relatives from her mom side that from time to time goes to her house to keep her company; I think that now she lives with a cousin. The thing is that for some reason my half sister never finished high school and never went back to study or finish high school even if the years had passed and she has never really had started to look for a job either. Currently she does not work or study and she is like 30 yrs old. While my dad was alive like I said he always supported her economically, my dad gave her like $635 monthly for expenses for herself or the house.
At home and my dad never mentioned us or we never really ask, why my half sister never liked or wanted to find a job to support herself instead of asking my dad for money each month for expenses.
We consider our half sister part of our family even if she does not live with us, we have never like neglected her, sort of speak, she had always been taken into account for family gatherings even if she is just a half sister from our dad side, she had came to our house for bday relative gatherings, or other events.
While my dad was ill due to his medical condition, at home or at the hospital, all my dad kids ( my older sister, my younger brother, my half sister and myself) took turns to care for him. My half sister even slept days at the hospital to be with him.
The thing is my dad passed away and according to the will he left, he left my half sister the house she had always lived, so that house belongs to hers. Also according to my mother, my dad left some money at the bank to be distributed 20% among his kids and my mother of what he left at the bank.
My uncle, my brother in law, my brother, all agree that once my dad passed away, the economical support my half sister used to received from him, is now null and void, it does not have validity anymore as my dad was the one supporting her from his work money. Now my mom does not have the right to support her anymore, according to my uncle or brother in law. Cause I know that after my dad passed away my half sister asked our uncle for money for some house expenses as the money she has already had weeks before was already gone in houses expenses obviously.
This is the moment that we all agree that it is time for our half sister to start looking for a job as my mom does not have the right to support her anymore; she will have to figure it out how to earn money for her own expenses at her house and for herself and stop asking our uncle for money as my uncle is not my dad and my uncle has his own expenses as well. And also we came to find out that since our half sister does not live with us, we really do not know what is going on in her house, who she invites to keep her company, relatives, friends, etc
So my mom says that once she receives the percentage my dad left, she will have to see what to do with that money, invest it in a bank, waste it, study, etc etc but we hope she will put the money in good use and not waste it, so she can support herself with that money, cause my mom or uncle does not have the right to support her now and we hope she is aware of that. I mean she has to start looking for a job, keep herself busy with a job and stop being at home doing nothing or expecting my mom or uncle to give her money each time the money runs out.
We do not want her to feel that we are neglecting her by stop giving her money, cause she may have that in mind, as my half sister we always had known that she a comfy miss and also has some attitude, cause my dad never neglected her economically and she took advantage of that she was still his daughter and she is our half sister however, my mom does not have the right to support her, she can look for a job to support herself and earn her own money and also put in a good use the money dad left her too. She will always be taken into account when the family will organize family get togethers so she wont feel she is completely left out now that our dad is gone that is something we wont change.
Do you think we should continue to support her as she is still part of our family or not