Grr! Disrespectful neighborhood kid!

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Registered: 06-24-2010
Grr! Disrespectful neighborhood kid!
Fri, 04-12-2013 - 1:55pm

I don't dislike kids, really.  I just don't want any of my own.  So, this rant isn't about all kids, just one.  Not too long ago, a new family moved into the neighborhood.  The parents seem OK.  The mother seems like a bit of a narcissist and manages to turn everything into something about her, so I really don't want to deal with her unless I have to.  The dad appears to work a lot.  They have a boy who's probably 9 or 10.  He's completely rude and disrespectful in general.  I didn't really care until the other day when the kid screamed at me.  He was standing in the middle of the road with a few other boys.  When I drove by, the other boys went to the sidewalk like they are supposed to.  This other kid stared me down, stood between my car and the driveway, and just refused to move.  I tapped my horn, and he raised his arms and yelled, "Are you honking at ME?  Are you SERIOUSLY honking at me???"  I got out of the car and told him that he needs to move, and it's not safe for him to be playing in the middle of the road.  He muttered something under his breath and walked away, looking back to shoot darts at me through his eyes.  Honestly...  Does this incident warrant a conversation with the kid's mom or should I just leave it alone and hope it doesn't happen again?

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 04-15-2013 - 10:55am

I don't know if I would go over there now, but if there is another incident, then I definitely would.  and yes, make it about safety--you know, standing in front of a moving car & refusing to move isn't very bright.  What if, instead of the nice neighbor lady, it was some crazy person that he was defying.  I hope that most people wouldnt' try fighting with or hurting a kid, but these days you never know.

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Registered: 09-16-2002
Mon, 04-15-2013 - 12:27pm

This is a tricky one because it seems to me if the kid is that disrespectful and rude, his parents haven't taught him any manners so who knows how they will receive you.  You could go over and talk to his parents, and explain the situation with the emphasis on his safety, not necessary his manners.  My husband was by himself practicing his tennis serves on the tennis court in our condo complex when a bunch of teenagers came on to the court and one asked to play.  My husband agreed but soon realized the kid was not a tennis player and was just messing with him, so he asked them to leave.  They didn't leave and my husband called the police because he felt threatened.  I did not blame him one bit, and I recommend you do the same if you feel you are in any way being threatened, even by a 9 year old. 

Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

.  -Albert Einstein

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Registered: 12-01-2001
Fri, 04-19-2013 - 11:40am

I struggle with this in my neighborhood as well. The kids who cause problems, though, usually don't live near me, but they wander the streets on occasion. Some of them like to throw rocks. Makes my husband and me so mad. If we catch them in action, we usually come outside and tell them very sternly that they need to quit. We also often call the cops. Not 911, but the main police offices. They'll send out an office to patrol if we think the rock-throwers aren't going to quit. A few years ago, there were some hoodlums running door to do, ringing the doorbell or pounding on the door, and then running away. We weren't fast enough to catch them the first few times. After a few days, someone knocked appropriately on the door. It was the children's mother. She had the children with her, and they looked miserable. She made them apologize and apologized profusely herself for the disturbance. I admired her for doing that. If the problem child you described were in my neighborhood, I'd probably give it one more try, too, before talking to the parents. Good luck! Tell us what happens!

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