My crazy family

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My crazy family
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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 2:54pm
Okay, my older sister is emotionally unbalanced. She is three years older and has always resented me. I could tell you stories...

Anyway, we haven't spoken in about three years, since I DARED to marry before she did. She believed it was her RIGHT to marry first and I somehow did it to spite her. I tried the whole "not everything is about YOU" speech and she almost hit me.

So in August she got married. Poor guy, he looks like a nice person too. Well, last night mom called. My sister is pregnant. She's due in November and mom told me. Sis swore mom to secrecy because she plans to call me in May and surprise me (she wants to keep it secret thru the first trimester). Mom said, "Maybe she'll have it on your anniversary and give YOU some baby luck." Of course, I have no intention of acting surprised. Sis told mom and swore her to secrecy so mom wouldn't be able to resist and would tell me. Ostensibly this will make me sad and jealous and prompt me to try and have a baby to catch up. But she will be first. I know how she works. It will be better on her ego to have the FIRST grandchild, not the only.

I am worried about this. I can TOTALLY imagine my sister freaking out. She can't stand ANYTHING taking attention from her. She will ADORE being pregnant, but once the baby is born and it isn't all about her anymore...ugh. She doesn't even LIKE children...all she wants is my mom's approval. I can actually see her doing some Andrea Yates on the kid if it won't stop crying. If anyone thinks *I* am impatient, sis takes the cake.

I just needed to share with people who understand.



 

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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 3:28pm
Hi-i can relate somewhat-My sister is also PG w/first, ans while this is a little different, I do feel she has some satisfaction in that she will be THE one to provide grandkids. She has asked me why I don't just get a Tubal Lig., and I felt mixed about her asking me that. I feel for ya!!
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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 3:40pm
Mmm. Mmmm. Mmmm.

I hope the husband is planning to raise the baby! LOL.

Seriously though, I hope she is really thinking about what it will be like to have a baby, and I hope she is ready for it.

One of my sisters is a major pain, but it has nothing to do with the fact that she's a mommy. Although she does think something is wrong w/me for not wanting kids. Like I should have them if I don't want them. What is with that?! Lots of people seem to think that.

Anyway, maybe your sis will undergo a strange, but good metamorphosis and become "normal" while she is pregnant. Then maybe she won't resent the baby getting all the attention. Let's hope anyway, for the kid's sake.

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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 6:16pm
*Baby Luck*?!? Isn't that an oxymoron? n/t
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Thu, 03-27-2003 - 7:26am
ACK!! Your sis does indeed sound like she's a few french fries short of a Happy Meal. I don't know why some people have to turn everything in life into a contest, at which they're always the center. Bad reason to have a kid, that's for sure. :-(

Hugs to you! Family drama is always so *shudder* dramatic, isn't it? :-p

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Thu, 03-27-2003 - 7:52am
I can sorta relate as well. I'm the oldest in my family. DH still complains about how Sis HAD to mention at our wedding how she finally did something before I did. (She was married 6 months before I was). Now I'm surprised that DH and I are making our CF decision permanent before her and her husband, considering that she was the one who knew she didn't want kids when she was like 10. I wish the best for your upcoming niece or nephew. Maybe your sister will grow into a good mother.
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Thu, 03-27-2003 - 9:28am
Makes me glad that I my brother and I aren't competitive. He is the oldest, but when something good happens to the other we are just happy for them...there is no "oooohhhh look what I did before you!!!!" kind of thing going on.

My brother has an inlaw who seems to always want to be the center of attention and I know how annoying it is to him.

As someone else said, hopefully the baby will change her for the better!

Hugs,

Rhonda