No joy with kids, joy without them
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|Tue, 12-03-2013 - 5:46pm|
My friend is 19 and just had her baby, which willl be fatherless. Im 28 and have never imagined having a baby with my work schedule. My last childless friend is trying for a baby and her boyfriend rarely allows her to go. So its just me left.
I was present for my 19 y/o friend giving birth at her request. I felt nothing no joy.... nothing. I felt like passing out from the gore. I held the baby and talked to it but got bored and gave it back.I like playing with kids and get along with them. I like my stress-free lifestyle, I like leaving when I want and moving around alot. I change bfs very frequently.
My friends all say Im getting old and need to have a baby now. I say the same thing I like my peace and quiet and spending money on me. My friend that is presently trying wants me to get pregnant when shes pregnant (elderly pregnancy pact). My doctor feels I should see a therapist about the no baby decision, which has been my stance since age 17. She says I will change my mind and it will be too late. I feel emotionless around them, I love cats and dogs I dont love kids.
All because your a woman doesnt mean you have the desire to have a baby built in.
another issue is once you have a baby most likely we wont be friends. I dont do anything family friendly when they cant find a sitter. They have alot of kids. We cant drink anymore because they are breast feeding.