The 5 Love Languages

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The 5 Love Languages
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Sun, 02-05-2012 - 8:54pm

Have any of you read the book (or done a seminar based on) The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman? If so, did you do this because your marriage was struggling, or to enhance an already happy marriage? How has it affected your marriage?

DH and I are going through the book together now, to enhance our communication and marriage.

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Sun, 02-05-2012 - 10:05pm

DH and I both read the book when we were still dating. He was relatively new to a serious r/ship

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Mon, 02-06-2012 - 7:11am
Haven't read it but it sounds like a wonderful book to read together ;)




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Mon, 02-06-2012 - 7:25am

Dee - I love using the "tank" line...I think DH and I will do that, too. It's a great way to signal to your partner what you're

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Mon, 02-06-2012 - 7:46am

I

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Mon, 02-06-2012 - 3:02pm

I've had this on my Amazon wishlist for YEARS! I think it could be really beneficial to DH and I; don't know why I haven't made it more of

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Mon, 02-06-2012 - 3:29pm

I read the book.

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Mon, 02-06-2012 - 7:20pm

RoseAnn - it's only $5.21 for the Kindle!

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Tue, 02-07-2012 - 1:17am
It's easier to work on stuff when you are communicating and you have the energy to do it. Once you start getting emotions high, I think it's a lot harder to do.

I also think it's nice to know when you are wasting your time. For example, neither of us really care about gifts so we'd be disappointed if bought them and our partner didn't react the way we'd expect. Life is too short to waste your time spilling your love fuel everywhere but in the tank :)

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Tue, 02-07-2012 - 1:19am

I'm not so sure it's common sense. How do you know what works with your partner if your partner doesn't even know themselves?

Obviously "physical" is for guys, but upon exploration my DH and I realized that physical touch is not just sex. And as a female, most men don't understand that I don't require a lot of physical touch or gifts...gender stereotypes can get in the way of common sense.

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Tue, 02-07-2012 - 7:08am

Dee - What you said about "spilling your fuel everywhere but in the tank" is *sooooo* perfect!!! I'm stealing it to share with DH.

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