Advice needed Please - from another womens' view
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|Mon, 04-04-2011 - 3:55pm|
So I have been with my other half for almost 11yrs. Over the yrs we have been through alot including infadelity on both sides. On my part I have not did anything for almost 6 yrs. And on his part since December when I found out that him and another girl went to the movies. There has been alot of isues betewwen us but we now have 4 kids, all under the age of 9. I am working full time as well as going to school part time, alot of times when I come home from work I have to clean and make dinner, then finish homework, and do bedtime, plus try to find time to finish my own homework and class assignments.
I still find myslef having these arguments with the other half because he feels I dont spend enough time with him, I dont kiss him enough, and Im not intimate enough with him. I find it hard to run a full daily routine and still have energy to be intimate in bed. He believes that if I can stay up till 12 am I can be intimate with him. To me resting in bed and being intimate is not in the same catagory. I explain to him that Intimacy on the weekend is all I can handle right now, but to him its not enough. I cant handle the stress and sometimes with all the past issues we have had I feel unsure if this is where I want to be. I never wanted my kids to grow up in a broken home jsut as I did, but Im sure we are messing well. He says he loves me and wants us to be a family but then drives me crazy because I communicate with the guys at work, or want to hang out with some me time every once in awhile. I feel trapped in a way and dont know what to do... Any advice given with help with the thoughts in my mind..