Am I being unreasonable?
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|Thu, 01-20-2011 - 10:32am|
For many years, Friday night has been the night that DH and I set aside as "ours". Not that we don't spend time together most evenings but since it's not a work night, we stay up later and usually make something special for dinner (lately it's been homemade pizza) and watch a movie. There have been exceptions. Once in awhile we'll be invited to go out or one of us will make plans with friends but it's always been an isolated incident and we always comment that we missed our regular Friday night relaxing together.
DH plays Dungeons and Dragons with a group of local guys. Their usual game has moved around some but has been settled on Thursday nights for quite some time. It actually worked out well once I got used to it. When I have Friday off, I'd stay up and wait for him. Otherwise I'd go to bed and he'd wake me up to say goodnight when he got home. I would do my own thing for dinner, watch a chick flick or my TV shows, etc. If friends wanted to get together, I'd lean them toward Thursdays, if at all possible, so DH and I weren't missing out on time together.
Now his game group has proposed moving the game to Friday nights. It seems there's no other time during the week or weekends that they can all gather. Right away when he mentioned it, I told him that I'd prefer if he told them he weren't available that night.
He's okay with that. They are meeting tomorrow to discuss options and he said it's possible that they'll have the game on Friday night anyway and he just won't be able to join them.
Now I feel like maybe I'm being unreasonable. I think he really wants to avoid Friday night, too, but I hate to be a factor in keeping him from something he enjoys. I suppose a possible compromise would be if he played every other week or once a month or something.
What do you ladies think?