Crush

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Registered: 08-28-2013
Crush
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Wed, 08-28-2013 - 7:57pm

I've been married for 10 years.  I have had a HUGE crush on my husband's cousin.  I cannot stop thinking about him.  He came to visit recently and he kept on asking for a hug.  I'm sure he has heard that I have a crush on him.  So maybe he was doing it to be nice.  He is such a gentleman that I know he wouldn't make a move on me out of respect for my husband. Although...It did not stop him from flirting or hugging me. My husband knows about my crush and did notice that his cousin hugged me several times. 

I recently saw him on facebook.  Do you think it's wrong to ask for a friend request?  I don't want to seem out of line.  I know my husband is ok with the request.

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Registered: 11-01-2013
In reply to: nm505girl
Fri, 06-06-2014 - 3:00am

Go Go Go.. Add him :)

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Registered: 12-12-2013
In reply to: nm505girl
Tue, 12-17-2013 - 4:49am
Its nice to see that your husband is so secured and confident that he does not mind your crush on his cousin. But I think you seem to be going a little overboard with your crush. Stop while it grows into some thing bigger, goes completely out of your control and creates havoc in your married life.
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Registered: 10-12-2003
In reply to: nm505girl
Tue, 10-08-2013 - 5:32pm

Run in the opposite direction as quickly as possible....only trouble and heartache are ahead.  Voice of experience here....leave this man alone & make a life with the man you love.  Get a crush on your husband....the benefits far aweigh any negatives.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
In reply to: nm505girl
Mon, 09-02-2013 - 7:22pm

So your H knows you're crushing on him and he's flirting with and always hugging on you, and your H don't mind you friending him? Well I see this behavior as already crossing the line. I think you should avoid friending him because I can see this flirting turning into an emotional affair already. But then again since your H does not seem to mind all this I wonder if you and your H have any boundaries set in place? Does he flirt with his female friends on facebook? 

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Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: nm505girl
Sat, 08-31-2013 - 7:26pm

I think it would be better not to make him a FB friend because it will just keep making you think about him.  I think it's unusual that your DH knows that you have a crush on his cousin & doesn't mind that you request him as a FB friend.  Why does he think nothing would happen?  Maybe you think you wouldn't cross a line to a physical affair, but you don't want to get into an emotional affair w/ him either.  Spend those emotional efforts on your DH.