Divorces after Decades? Opinions?
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|Mon, 07-26-2010 - 2:23pm|
You know, first off, I have to say, I hope I didn't already post this, because I've had this on my mind for awhile. I'm sorry if this is a repeat. Let me know if it is Anyway....
Example, Al, and Tipper Gore. 40 years I think they've been married. Now, divorce. I can't believe it. I just wonder, after so many years of marriage, what causes a divorce? It boggles my mind. I know sometimes there is cheating involved, although, let's take that out of the equation. I've heard of couples getting divorced after so many years, but I am curious how? I know I am a newlywed. I just cannot imagine what you can't work out after 20 plus years.
I feel like marriages were different when our parent's got married. I feel like a lot of couples get married, and don't work out things as much. They rush for divorce. I know a couple right now, who probably shouldn't have gotten married in the first place. BUT, they are married. They are having a hard time right now and basically she is just throwing in the towel. She refuses to go to counseling. They have two kids, and he adopted her child. He want's to work things out, he's so upset, she doesn't want anything to do anything. I think that they could work things out with effort. Although, I think that divorce is just so accepted now.
I want to say, that I am in NO WAY, judging the wonderful people on this board who are on their second marriage. I want to stress that. I know there are reasons for divorce.
I am a more spiritual person, than religious, but to me, marriage is making a promise to each other, and a promise to God. My Husband feel very strongly about that. Now, I got married last September, at 28. My Birthday is in November. I'll be 30 this year, and my Husband will be 33. I feel like we got married a bit older, but, I also believe that was a good choice. I'm glad I was a bit older. I think you know yourself better. I got a wedding invite for a 22 year old. I think that is young. I think that could contribute to divorces, although, my main thing is after a 40 year marriage, what can't you work out?
I guess that is the purpose of this post, What do you guys think? Do you think after a long marriage you should be able to get through your problems? Do you think that times have changed, and people don't take marriage as seriously? Do you think that people who get married before 25, are too young to get married, and aren't mature enough to take marriage seriously? The reason I bring the age 25 up, is that the divorce rate is 80% higher if you get married before 25. I guess I was just wondering what some of your feelings were on this.
On another note, what are your deal breakers? You know, cheating, etc. that would force your hand at divorce. I was just thinking about some of this stuff, and I wondered what your opinions were on all of this.
I want to stress again that I am in no way judging, you wonderful ladies that are on second marriages.
I am a newlywed, or still feel like one, although, I just was thinking, that nothing, would lead my Husband and I to get divorced. I feel very strongly about our marriage, if he cheated, i would probably sleep in the extra bedroom and go to counseling. Although, until you've been through it, I suppose you can't answer, because ideally that's what i would want to do, and my Husband too, but I've not been through this, so I can't answer I guess.
So, what are your opinions on all of this? Thoughts? Just curious. Thought it was a good topic to bring up.
So, What Do You Think?
* Robyn *