Do Either YoU or DH hold Grudges ?

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Do Either YoU or DH hold Grudges ?
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Sun, 10-23-2011 - 10:17pm
Do Either YoU or DH hold Grudges ? Yes .. please share No .. please share DH does .. please share I do .. please share It depends .. please share




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Mon, 10-24-2011 - 3:28pm

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Mon, 10-24-2011 - 5:04pm

I do, dh sometimes, but mostly not.





 




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Mon, 10-24-2011 - 6:32pm
Oh so you both do then ludam?
How does that go?
Sounds like you more than him :)




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Mon, 10-24-2011 - 6:44pm
Hi Robyn,
LOL on learning how to handle him better now
Well lucky it's just one of you that hold grudges & not both of you :)




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Mon, 10-24-2011 - 9:09pm

In general, DH is more of a grudge holder than I am. I believe that "forgive" and "forget" shouldn't necessarily go together, and I end unhealthy relationships, but I don't think that's the same as holding a grudge.

We do not hold grudges with each other. DH and I both did lots of work on ourselves after our respective first marriages ended, and (I believe) we were well prepared when we got married. We rarely argue, and we always talk things out, even if the end result is that we

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Mon, 10-24-2011 - 10:09pm

Great way to look at it really Carol,
It is that person's issue often even if it is annoying, LOL
Nice you two get along so well.
I think that *forgive & forget* is something to try to do as well.
The *agree to disagree8 is the way to go I believe if it must be ;)




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Tue, 10-25-2011 - 2:14am

Carol,

I disagree with you somewhat. It's only my issue if a) he came that way and b) it doesn't actually AFFECT me.

Dh and I share a vehicle so when he leaves his keys in his jacket, I have to find them. Not a big deal bc I know he ALWAYS does this...except he doesn't hang his jacket up, he leaves it around the house. So this morning, I was all ready for work w/my shoes on when I discovered DH had parked behind me and I couldn't get out...so I had take my shoes off and run through the house looking for his jacket...

What if I had been running late for my meeting with my boss this morning? THAT affects me.

Of course, I didn't bark at him about it. In fact, I haven't even mentioned it yet and he's been home half an hour. I wanted him to decompress before I point it out.

My suggestion will be: I've asked you many times to leave the keys out for me. Maybe since you can't seem to do that, you could at least hang your jacket up in the closet so I can find the keys! Eventually we will find something that works for both us and it'll be a dead issue.

Dee

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Tue, 10-25-2011 - 2:18am
Neither of us hold grudges bc neither of us can stand to have the other one mad at us. So we'll talk until we both feel "lovey dovey" again. We never go to bad mad at each other - even a small grudge.

Dee
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Tue, 10-25-2011 - 6:55am

Dee, I don't think we disagree at all. If the annoying situation has a real effect, then that's a whole different story.

The situation you describe would send me through the roof, especially if it happened repeatedly.

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Tue, 10-25-2011 - 11:43am
Oh that is great to hear Dee,
You & Dh have that down perfect :)




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