Do YoU & DH have the Same Religious Beliefs ?

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Do YoU & DH have the Same Religious Beliefs ?
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Tue, 04-26-2011 - 10:29pm
Do YoU & DH have the Same Religious Beliefs ? Yes of course
We do now .. please share
Not really but it's ok
No .. please share
Other .. please share
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Wed, 04-27-2011 - 9:35am

It looks like my workplace has caught onto the polls and that site is now blocked from my work computer. :(

My vote was "Not really but it's okay"

I was raised Catholic. DH was not raised with any regular religious experience.

We were married in the Catholic church and I encouraged him to take classes with me so that we could both learn more about the Catholic Church's teachings. The unforeseen consequence of that was that I discovered that I had some fundamental differences with the views of the Church so I haven't regularly attended church since 1997.

I now consider myself spiritual. I believe in God. I pray. I don't attend church except when I am visiting my parents. I share some of my spiritual musings with DH but mostly I've found other people who are more open to those thoughts.

This arrangement seems to work for us. I used to think that religious compatibility was highly important in a successful marriage. I think it's made somewhat easier for us because we don't have kids so there isn't friction over how to proceed with that.

RoseAnn

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Wed, 04-27-2011 - 11:59am

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Wed, 04-27-2011 - 1:06pm

DH and I actually talked about this the other night.

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Wed, 04-27-2011 - 1:38pm

DH and I were raised the same way. Neither one of our families went to church, nor were we brought up in any religious beliefs. My father was raised a Southern Baptist, but he left the church long before I was born. My mother was raised Catholic but was excommunicated when an early first marriage ended in divorce. DH's family is not religious at all. He considers himself to be an agnostic. I'm a Pagan and my particular path is Druidism. He is fine with my form of spirituality and we never argue about it.

This is completely the opposite of my first marriage. My ex was an athiest who saw all forms of spirituality as wrong. He knew I was a Pagan when we married and he seemed fine with it at first. But then he began to browbeat me so badly about it that in order to keep the peace I took down my altar, put away my tools and books and didn't openly practice my faith anymore. It took me a long time after my divorce to find my way again. I thought that I had given up on the God/desses, but They showed me that They hadn't given up on me.

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Wed, 04-27-2011 - 3:38pm

Hey RoseAnn,
This was actually a different site I used for polls,
So let's hope the other one isn't blocked too.

True without the kids,
Did DH attend those classes as well ?
Interesting you found yourself disagreeing with some things.
Thinking now a days or even years ago it's not as important as it was.
Glad you two have it so it works for you .. that's what counts :)




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Wed, 04-27-2011 - 3:39pm

So you & RoseAnn agree & are in the same boat Robyn,
Interesting yes :)




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Wed, 04-27-2011 - 3:41pm

Amazing on the differences of your two marriages nancy,
Glad you both do what you want & neither is bothered.
Kind of think that is how it should be.
Unless of course both are on the exact same page.
So glad you are able to do what you want like that as you should :)




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Wed, 04-27-2011 - 3:44pm

Great how you two talked about Shelly,
Even better it made you feel closer.
Maybe over time he will change his mind .. or not.
However at some point I guess you will be fine with whatever he decides :)




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Wed, 04-27-2011 - 5:00pm

Yes, I think that we do, for the most part - we are agnostic.

I was raised in the Church of Christ (if you've seen "Footloose,"

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Wed, 04-27-2011 - 5:30pm

DH did attend the classes with me. We were in a new town and thought it might be a way to meet people. Unfortunately, the class was populated by mostly elderly people and many of them were intent on converting DH. At the time, we weren't sure about our feelings on having kids but I resented an old celibate man telling me how to go about planning my family. ;)

Both DH and I are very scientific-minded. I am much more open to the mystical and unexplained whereas he thinks there is a scientific explanation for everything.

RoseAnn

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