Facebook + Husband = grrrrrrrr!

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Facebook + Husband = grrrrrrrr!
Wed, 02-23-2011 - 8:11am

Where to start with this one?


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Registered: 10-20-2008
Wed, 02-23-2011 - 8:41am

Let me be pretty brief in my opinion, Very first and foremost, my reading your post DID NOT make me think of you as inattentive or any such thing.

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Registered: 01-13-2011
Wed, 02-23-2011 - 8:57am

Thanks Mrsdecember; I am starting to think the same about FB.

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Wed, 02-23-2011 - 10:16am

That is a tough situation. You beat me to the punch on all the reasons why this shouldn't be bothering you so much! LOL

I think it's time that you block his newsfeed or unfriend him so that you don't see these constant updates since they only serve to upset you.

I have been guilty of what you call "attention-seeking" updates but it's usually because I want to share something but don't want to come right out and say it so I come up with a way to ask for support cryptically and a few people will respond to find out what's going on.

I hope you can find a way to accept the way your DH uses this technology. It is still a relatively new forum and will be interesting to see what takes its place in 5 years. ;)


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Wed, 02-23-2011 - 3:57pm

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Wed, 02-23-2011 - 5:13pm

Robyn - that's crazy what happened with your friend's dad passing!

I have to say that I'm a *HUGE* fan of FB, because my circles of friends do not overlap (I have friends from school, from this job or that job, etc.), and it was impossible to keep up with everyone before FB. I detest talking on the phone, so my primary form of communication (before FB) was email. FB has made it much easier for me to stay close

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Registered: 10-23-2007
Wed, 02-23-2011 - 5:34pm

Actually I wonder how long it will take people to hide his feed or delete him fully?

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Registered: 09-20-2007
Wed, 02-23-2011 - 5:57pm

I agree with you, Carol. My best friend is someone whom I've known for almost 30 years and I can't remember the last time we talked on the phone. And since she lives about six hours from me, we very rarely see each other. She's the one who talked me into joining FB and she's the main person whom I stay in contact with. I also have some friends here on iVillage who are FB friends. And I also hate talking on the phone. I don't even own a cellphone and see no need for one. Both DH and I have FB accounts, but he rarely looks at his. I use my FB page mainly for posting links from my favorite websites or YouTube videos to share with others. And I also use it to send private messages to my best friend, since that's the easiest way for me to keep in contact with her.

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Wed, 02-23-2011 - 6:37pm
Thank you for all your replies!

Sugarrush66, thankfully he doesn't post constantly, or that would really drive me mad! He actually doesn't post all that often, he probably posts an update a couple of times a week, but can go days without posting at all.

It's just that when he does post.......well you know my feelings on that lol

I actually feel a LOT better now I've ranted on here though. I actually feel a bit bad about it. I think I've unintentionally painted a picture of him being a bit of a pathetic annoying person, but he isn't really. He is an amazing man, a loving husband, and he has been by my side through some truly awful times.

I think the FB thing started out as a slight annoyance, and then grew into a big annoyance over a three year period.

I've never mentioned it to anyone, because I know it shouldn't really bother me, and I didn't think anyone would understand. It has really helped to post on here, and get other people's opinions. I feel much calmer about things now, and don't feel annoyed anymore. I don't know how long it will last, but all good for now!

I'll see how I feel when he next posts.....

Thanks again

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Wed, 02-23-2011 - 8:00pm

Hi & welcome to the board :)

I see you have gotten some good ideas on what to do/handle this best for you.
Not going to repeat but would rtend to agree to block him.
Although that's easier said than done
You could just *ignore* everything you see but again that's not as easy either.
Let us know what you decide to do :)

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Registered: 01-13-2011
Thu, 02-24-2011 - 8:30am

Hi hugss; yes I think I would find it hard to block him, but I do think it is the best idea.