Flirting

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Flirting
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Thu, 08-09-2012 - 5:42pm

Dh and I flirt with others. I honestly think he does it subconciously. Sometimes it goes a little far...like the time he was flirting with the flight attendant so much his dad said, "you should marry her! she's cute and you'd get free flights." I dunno, that rubbed me wrong as I was sitting right next to him. I told him and he apologized. I know he would make a concerted effort to stop if I asked, but life should eb about living too. I don't want to stop him from doing it as it is harmless.

So I've started dipping my water of flirting. I used to flirt when I single but as a woman, I found it usually "went somewhere" so I dont' do it when in a r/ship.

Do you and your DH flirt with others? In front of each other? Do you have a defined boundary, what is it?

 

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Registered: 01-13-2010
In reply to: passion8te
Fri, 08-10-2012 - 8:01am

Since I'm old school, IMHO, I think it is desrespectful to your spouse and to your marriage to flirt with others.  But, like I said, that's just me.  It sounds like since you both do it and neither of you mind the other doing it, then it works for you.  I told dh just last night (in talking about joint vs. separate checking acounts) that marriage is whatever works for the 2 people involved.

I know I personally would not like dh flirting with other women...with or without me there.  Disrespectful...

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In reply to: passion8te
Fri, 08-10-2012 - 8:27am

We are both pretty mild flirters. I actually don't mind DH flirting in front of me because I know he's going home with me! :smileyhappy:

In the case you describe with the flight attendant, I would be more at FIL for making that comment! LOL

RoseAnn

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Registered: 09-25-2010
In reply to: passion8te
Sun, 08-12-2012 - 11:59pm
I guess DH & I are beyond that,
Neither of us flirt with anyone let alone in front of each other.
I don't think it's a bad thing though :smileyhappy:




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Registered: 12-16-2004
In reply to: passion8te
Mon, 08-13-2012 - 10:06am

My husband only need to open his mouth and he has  girls hanging on him,  his voice is like honey and  his Scottish dialect is seen as sexy  and exotic here. I  find it funny and I don't mind, because my husband doesn't see him self  as sexy and the  attention is giving him a confident boost.

And he has started teasing girls who he notice likes his voice. I just like knowing I am going home with  guy the girls want.

I can't flirt , never have never will but some people  will flock around me like bees to honey  and my husband don't mind at all. This weekend  while I was cooking I had three guys sniffing my neck and talking what I smell like, apparently I smell either apple pie with cinnamon sugar  or   raspberry vanilla pie.  I am used to this,  I don't  use perfume or perfumed products because my natural smell reminds people of something comforting and safe  and that can be any  thing from applepie to  hay.

And my husband says he  enjoys knowing that he is going home with girl every guy wants.

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Registered: 09-25-2009
In reply to: passion8te
Tue, 08-14-2012 - 10:49am

Neither one of us really flirts.  I'm a pretty straight forward person in general so I have a hard time with he subtleties of flirting, so I never really did it.  DH is kind of a flirting idiot to be honest.  lol.  He has no clue how nor does he have any clue when someone else is trying to flirt with him.  It's pretty entertaining to see someone try to flirt with him and he's completely clueless.  HE actually gets pretty angry when someone flirts with him (and he actually realizes it) when I'm around because he feels that it's disrespectful to me when others are flirting with him.  He usually says something like "can't they see I'm with someone??"  or "Can't they see I'm wearing a wedding ring, and not interested?"  It's kind of sweet, really.  







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In reply to: passion8te
Sat, 08-18-2012 - 12:49am
DH is a naturally friendly guy and he has kind of a disarming nature. He's cute -- to me -- but he doesn't have the kind of looks that makes a woman melt at first site. And his voice is nasal and not that attractive either.. But like I said, he can't help being friendly, and if a woman is friendly back to him they can go back and forth that way. I've seen him do it and he doesn't mean to be disrespectful and I don't take it that way. I know he does it away from me b/c he can't help telling me about the witty remarks he makes to others (men included). He should be doing stand up, seriously.
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Registered: 04-08-2008
In reply to: passion8te
Sat, 08-18-2012 - 1:00am
That is pretty much what my DH does. When he was single, all his flirting never amounted to anything so he doesn't see it has a problem.

I guess it feels different for me bc I did have flirtations give rise to things when I was single.

Dee
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In reply to: passion8te
Fri, 08-31-2012 - 11:56pm
I'd love to do that but my DH struggles with stuff like that. But maybe some day!!!

Dee