Yesterday was our 19th anniversary.
DH and I have been married less than two years, so we haven't renewed yet. We'd like to renew our vows on our sixth anniversary, though. We were married by a JoP, and we had no friends or family present. Now that we live in our hometown again, we'd like to have an event celebrating our marriage. The reason we want to do it for our sixth anniversary is because we were both married before, and we both had a couple of serious relationships besides our first spouses. When we get to our sixth wedding anniversary, we will have been together longer than we were ever with anyone else.
Welcome to the board and congratulations on 19 years! DH and I are quickly approaching 15 years and it's hard to believe how much has happened in that time and yet it still feels (sort of) like yesterday. LOL
I don't think renewing your vows has to indicate that you are 100% past the affair from years ago. It sounds like you have done some good healing and are realistic that it will take awhile to be completely past that incident.
DH and I don't have plans to renew our vows but I know there are lots of nice ideas out there.
Last summer we attended a BBQ at a friend's house. Near the end, the host couple disappeared and when they reappeared, they had changed into nicer clothes and did a short and simple vow renewal with all of their friends and children present.
I think vow renewal can be exactly what you want it to be. You're already legally married so there aren't any requirements on what you *have* to do. Do what is special and meaningful to you as a couple and as a family.
I love the idea of celebrating when you hit the point that you've been together longer than you've been with anyone else!
We're way past that point. LOL Since DH was my first serious boyfriend, I think that's what we celebrated on our wedding day. ;)
We could do the same for our house, though. We've been in our current house for 3 years and were in our longest for 7 so we're almost half there and it might time out to coincide with paying it off so we could do a house rewarming. LOL Not quite as romantic as a vow renewal but sounds like a good reason to party. ;)
We have renewed our vows on/for our 25th anniversary,We decided ahead of time we wanted to take a crusie with the kids (they were fairly old)Anyways we also decided to renew our vows during the cruise which we did.It was fabulous & we both are so glad we did.Both my sons were as thrilled as us to be a part of it too!That was already almost 7 years ago ::gasp::If you decide to .. hope you'll share the details :)
Great to see you back on iVillage, LM!
DH and I will married for 11 years in October. We've been talking about renewing our vows one day, probably for our 20th or 25th. We were married at the county courthouse with just the two of us, so we'd like a big celebration for our renewals. What we've been talking about is to have it at the Renaissance faire that we attend every year. I know that people can be married there so I imagine we could have a renewal celebration there as well. I think that since we didn't have a big celebration at our wedding that we will at our renewals.
I don't personally know anyone who's renewed their vows, but I'm sure that for practical questions, like if you need someone to officiate, could be answered online. I'm sure there are websites for that. As for the personal stuff, like what to wear, the vows you use, etc., you and DH could discuss them together and come up with something special.
My parents renewed their vows after their 48th anniversary.
Thanks everyone. :)