How do you make time for you relationship?

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How do you make time for you relationship?
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Mon, 05-16-2011 - 1:50pm

Hi ladies -

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Mon, 05-16-2011 - 2:46pm

We eat dinner together nearly every night. Of course we allow for occasional plans with friends or families but the evenings are really precious time to both of us. Even though we eat dinner in front of the TV, we prepare it together and we always have the option to pause what we're watching and talk more.

In the summer, I aim to ride the bus twice a week. DH does his best to be home in time to pick up the dogs and meet me at the bus stop and we walk home together. On days I don't ride the bus, we often go for a short walk before dinner.

On Saturday mornings, we walk to the Farmer's Market about a mile away with the dogs. We enjoy getting out with the dogs, checking out the fresh local produce and the walk is a great way to start the day.

We recently found a game we both enjoy (Carcassone) and have been playing that after dinner several nights a week. It's a city-building game that goes quickly and can either be highly competitive or fairly relaxed, depending on how we feel.

I think just being aware of your need to spend time together is the first step to making it happen in ways and quantities that work for you and your DH.

RoseAnn

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Mon, 05-16-2011 - 2:48pm

I think it's great that you're doing things for yourself, and not waiting until your DH is deployed to make friends! I also think it's wonderful that you're conscious of the need to make time for your relationship.

As with many things, this is really about what works for you as a couple. I'll tell you what works for us, and I hope it may give you some ideas.

The first 3 months DH and I were together, we lived 200 miles apart. Every Friday night after work, I drove to Dallas, and returned home on Sunday afternoon. Because DH didn't have a car, and because I was away from home all weekend, we often needed to run basic errands. We were just so happy to be together after not seeing each other all week that even grocery shopping was fun!

That feeling has carried over to our married life, and we still run errands together on the weekends. It is

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Mon, 05-16-2011 - 3:04pm
I agree with Carol, we run all our errands together too. Makes for chat time in the car together. Since we have 2 kids, one of us often runs in while the other stays in the car and listens to the radio. Ppl think we're nuts bc it would be easier to just go by yourself and leave the kids at home.

We also attend each other's hockey games. I watch him play men's hockey and he watches me play coed hockey. The kids can run around the arena and we can chat about the game in the car there and back. Plus, if the team comes upstairs for a celebatory drink, we can participate as a couple.

We don't have set date nights but I am constantly looking for fun things to do. For example, I purchased tickets to a charity even last Thurs. It was a beer tastings with appies event and it was LOTS of fun. We walked home together and then put the kids to bed and had a nice evening together.

We always go to bed together - that way we can chat before we fall asleep and more importantly, then we are on the same schedule throughout the day :) Sounds funny, but we had issues where one of us got up late and then the other one already breakfast, then you aren't hungry for lunch/dinner at the same time.

DH works shift work so we only get dinner together one evening a week. Sometimes we don't even get that - so we make sure to have other times together.

Definitely keep us posted on the play!

Dee
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Mon, 05-16-2011 - 6:02pm

Dinner allways at the table together and this wont change when we have kids, it is important to have this time to bound and

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Mon, 05-16-2011 - 11:20pm

Congrats to you !




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Tue, 05-17-2011 - 12:42pm

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Fri, 05-20-2011 - 12:49am
I do miss showers together :)

I also miss dinners together. Even when we go to lunch together on his days off, it's really not the same w/2 kids. We are so busy "policing" or focussing on them that we rarely get that intimate dinner talk.

Dee
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Fri, 05-20-2011 - 1:47pm

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