Hi ladies -
- TronGal (Singer/songwriter/contributing author for
We eat dinner together nearly every night. Of course we allow for occasional plans with friends or families but the evenings are really precious time to both of us. Even though we eat dinner in front of the TV, we prepare it together and we always have the option to pause what we're watching and talk more.
In the summer, I aim to ride the bus twice a week. DH does his best to be home in time to pick up the dogs and meet me at the bus stop and we walk home together. On days I don't ride the bus, we often go for a short walk before dinner.
On Saturday mornings, we walk to the Farmer's Market about a mile away with the dogs. We enjoy getting out with the dogs, checking out the fresh local produce and the walk is a great way to start the day.
We recently found a game we both enjoy (Carcassone) and have been playing that after dinner several nights a week. It's a city-building game that goes quickly and can either be highly competitive or fairly relaxed, depending on how we feel.
I think just being aware of your need to spend time together is the first step to making it happen in ways and quantities that work for you and your DH.
I think it's great that you're doing things for yourself, and not waiting until your DH is deployed to make friends! I also think it's wonderful that you're conscious of the need to make time for your relationship.
As with many things, this is really about what works for you as a couple. I'll tell you what works for us, and I hope it may give you some ideas.
The first 3 months DH and I were together, we lived 200 miles apart. Every Friday night after work, I drove to Dallas, and returned home on Sunday afternoon. Because DH didn't have a car, and because I was away from home all weekend, we often needed to run basic errands. We were just so happy to be together after not seeing each other all week that even grocery shopping was fun!
That feeling has carried over to our married life, and we still run errands together on the weekends. It is
Dinner allways at the table together and this wont change when we have kids, it is important to have this time to bound and
Congrats to you !