How honest are you with your partner?

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How honest are you with your partner?
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Sat, 07-30-2011 - 10:33pm

So at the party last night, the topic of sex came up a lot. We were watching Sex in the City and playing the Sex in the City trivia game...so...

Anyway, I admitted that my last r/ship was w/a guy that rocked me into outer space. I can't go on enough about how absolutely FANTASTIC this guy was...it was very passionate. I had

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Sun, 08-14-2011 - 3:38pm
Yes, I suspect most ppl just don't want to risk one partner not coming back to explain things and work it out. But I've always thought that if the truth upsets them and they run, then is this the partner I can count on when the chips are down? That was an important quality in a partner for me.

Glad to hear I'm not off my rocker :)

Dee
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Sat, 08-13-2011 - 2:05am
We are completely honest with each other, we've seen how not being honest can destroy relationships & not just between a husband & wife. One lie can destroy an entire family & never letting the truth out only adds to the damage. I don't think some people realize just how much damage a simple lie can do. There are times when the truth hurts & makes you want to lash out in anger in those moments we take a step back go separate ways give it a little while & then try explaining our feelings in a text before we come back & talk about things face to face, but I would rather be a little upset or hurt then lied to any day!!
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Sat, 08-13-2011 - 12:17am
WElcome to the board :)
So glad you stopped by & shared your thoughts.
Hope we'll see you here again :)




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Fri, 08-12-2011 - 11:44pm

DH knows the most secret things about me. I told him the most humiliating things about myself and yet he still married me. I know most things about him but I am very gealous so I try not to ask him or hear about his past lovers. We don't keep secrets from eachother, no matter how big or how small. Like Cat said, it's just too exhausting trying to keep coming up with cover stories. besides, im a horrible liar. i always get caught so he'd always find me out. There's really no point in trying to lie when telling the truth keeps things smooth. Lying keeps you in trouble much longer than the truth, even if it is by omission. So yes, DH and I tell eachother anything that's impprtant enough that we think the other should know.

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Wed, 08-03-2011 - 10:56am

Nancy - just wanted to say that I'm glad you can be (at least somewhat) open about your lifestyle. I have a close friend who had an open relationship with her DH during their 25-year marriage. They recently divorced for unrelated reasons, but they were very happy with the

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Wed, 08-03-2011 - 12:22am
Hubby wasn't there - it was a "sex in the city" party with all women. Granted, I may have been a little forthright but I blame the cosmos! I'm pretty open about myself - even sexual stuff bc I know how to talk about stuff w/o going into gory details :)

I told him afterwards and he just laughed...he couldn't care less about what those women think so he wouldn't care what I said there. He and I have nothing in our boring lives to hide, LOL.

Dee
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Tue, 08-02-2011 - 7:39pm

Dh and I are completly honest with each other.

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Registered: 04-25-2011
Tue, 08-02-2011 - 7:25pm

Listen - you are not a freak - its what you and dh like.........could I do that

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Tue, 08-02-2011 - 6:57pm

Thanks! I'm pretty open about our relationship on the Love & Sex boards here on iVillage, but away from those particular boards I don't advertise my lifestyle. A lot of people don't understand it and think I'm a freak. Well, I am, but in a good way!

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Tue, 08-02-2011 - 6:40pm

I knew what alternative sexual lifestyle could

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