How Old Were You when you Married ?

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How Old Were You when you Married ?
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Sun, 12-19-2010 - 10:03pm
How Old Were You when you Married ? 17 - 20 21 - 25 26 - 30 31 - 35 36 - 40 Other .. please share




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Tue, 12-21-2010 - 5:33pm

I hope I didn't offend, RoseAnn! You are absolutely right that getting married before 25 is not an automatic divorce in the making. My statement that "I think most people who marry before 25 are way too young..." is based solely on my personal experiences (mine and those of my friends/family).

I believe that strong, committed marriages can happen at any age; I just think it's *more* likely for a marriage to succeed when both parties are older.

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Tue, 12-21-2010 - 6:28pm

You didn't offend me, Carol. I just felt the need to point out that, for every statistic, there is an outlier. ;)

I agree that for a lot of people that I've seen get married younger, they weren't mature enough or didn't have realistic expectations (of themselves, or their spouse, or the relationship or a combination) or were just going through the motions.

I think there are some people who never mature enough to marry, IMO. These are the people who marry, divorce, date habitually and always wonder why they haven't found the right person. In those cases, I think they are never going to be the right person. Again, just an anecdotal observation. ;)

RoseAnn

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Tue, 12-21-2010 - 6:35pm

You hit the nail on the head there! I thought the idea of having to love yourself before you can love someone else was just silly, until I'd been on the relationship roller coaster a while. Now, I realize it's

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Wed, 12-22-2010 - 1:00pm
I wasn't offended at all. I was just compelled to insert my $0.02. ;)

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Wed, 12-22-2010 - 1:02pm
{{{Hugs}}} on holidays without your dad. My parents are still both alive but other things in our family dynamic have changed and I definitely miss the "good ol' days" when we were one big happy family. ;)
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Wed, 12-22-2010 - 1:34pm
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Tue, 12-28-2010 - 12:32am

I was 44 and my wife 43 when we married--the first marriage for both of us.