How to predict if your marriage will last (unless it's for TV ratings)

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How to predict if your marriage will last (unless it's for TV ratings)
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Mon, 12-12-2011 - 9:59am

The Kim Kardashian business aside, I thought this was a pretty interesting article!

How to predict if your marriage will last (unless it's for TV ratings)

But, asked UCLA psychologist Thomas Bradbury, and graduate student Justin Lavner, what about those who seem incredibly happy being married to each other? If people in very satisfying marriages still get divorced, is there hope for any of us?

Earlier research by others had found that so-called “low-distress” couples who later divorced had been married an average of over six years and that the marital happiness reported by the husbands was actually higher than husbands in marriages that lasted.

http://vitals.msnbc.msn.com/_news/2011/11/02/8601435-how-to-predict-if-your-marriage-will-last-unless-its-for-tv-ratings

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Very interesting article!

DH and I have been together since January 2009, and married since August 2009. The year from April 2009-April 2010 was *incredibly* stressful. But looking back, I'm glad

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Interesting for sure,
No need for me to worry :)




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That article was a little scary to me because my dh is a rather "verbally agressive" type.

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John Gottman claims to predict divorce with 91% accuracy.

http://www.isoulseek.com/sitebranches/relationskills/articles/6signs.pdf
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Just bc your DH is negative, doesn't mean you can't have a happy marriage :)

My DH is very negative and I am a half full person too.

So long as he isn't turning his negativity on you, then you are fine. And as long as you aren't expecting/hoping/etc him to be positive. He is who he is and you fell in love with him - negativity and all - so you should be able to find a way to not let it harm your marriage.

Dh is often negative about himself and I'll just say, "dont' be so hard on yourself honey." Sometimes he'll turn it on me but I just point it out. I'll say, if you want to be negative go ahead...but I'm enjoying X and I'd prefer you didn't try to rain on MY fun." Usually he's smart enough to let it go or even take back what he just said :)

Good luck finding your balance - it's there somewhere!

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That's an interesting article.

DH and I read a couples skills book at the beginning of our r.ship. We learned a lot about "fighting" fair. We also try to ask ourselves what specifically we want from our partner before we start a discussion that could become a fight. So basically we don't do flooding or the harsh set up.

I have to thank my DH for buying the book and suggesting we both read it :)

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I honestly never noticed dh's negativiity until we married.

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