I had a revelation

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I had a revelation
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Tue, 11-06-2012 - 4:13pm

Last weekend, I "dragged" DH on errands with me. Things I felt we needed to accomplish for our household (i.e. not clothes shopping for me or something). He was a grump the entire time to the point that I've decided to tackle this weekend's list of errands by myself on my Friday off. :-/

Last night DH had a phone conversation with his mom where they were discussing plans while DSD is visiting over Thanksgiving. We're planning on having DMIL and DFIL over to exchange gifts with DSD, DSIL and the 2 DGSs. DMIL is insistent that we invite DH's brother, SIL and our DN. DH and I are agreed on standing firm on who's invited. DSD and her family don't exchange gifts with DBIL, etc and it would be awkward to try and explain to the kids and/or put undue pressure on DSD to shop for them. At this point, I will admit that I have a tendency to harp on DMIL's idiosyncracies. ;)

What occured to me today is that, as long as we take turns irritating each other, we're doing okay! LOL I was annoyed that DH was grumpy and took some of the pleasure out of getting things done last weekend but I was able to roll with it. He was annoyed at my complaining about his mom and her pushy ways but I'm pretty sure we'll be back to normal tonight.

It's like an annoyance see saw. LOL

RoseAnn

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Mon, 11-12-2012 - 10:57pm
It's funny how much balance can do for a relationship so long as you're open to seeing where that balance lies. Healthy relationships have a lot of compromise and eventually have their own rules. My husband doesn't run errands with me. He's much happier to stay home and enjoy running errands without a grump along for the ride.
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Sat, 11-10-2012 - 6:15pm

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I think there is definitely something to that theory. Whatever you are doing in your r/ship there has to be balance.

sounds like lots of fun family visiting going on :)

Dee

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Wed, 11-07-2012 - 8:50pm

LOL RoseAnn,
Too cute :)




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Wed, 11-07-2012 - 2:03pm

You know who really appreciated the bath? Ruby! She thinks of it as her own personal batch of "people soup". Blech. LOL

RA

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Wed, 11-07-2012 - 12:42pm

LOL .. what a great relationship you two have,
Too cute on his repsonse to you though <g>
Am sure you both appreciated that bath :)




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Wed, 11-07-2012 - 11:01am

Last night I shared my theory with DH that as long as we take turns annoying each other, it all balances out. His response: "I think you're taking more than your fair share." LOL

I was overly chatty during the election results and eventually excused myself to take a bath because I just don't find it as enjoyable as DH does. ;)

RoseAnn

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Tue, 11-06-2012 - 7:10pm

LOL RoseAnn,
It does sound healthy really,
And at the end of the day if you two are smiling even better <g>
Am glad you're standing firm on who you are inviting when your dsc are there.
Afterall it is your place :)