life boat

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life boat
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Fri, 04-13-2012 - 2:15pm

hello all!! i went to go see titanic 3d last saturday anmd i loved every minute of it. i love that movie and the 3d part-awesome. but im not here to discuss great movies with you guys-lol. im thinking that most of the people on this board have seen the movie-and the scene where rose jumps off the lifeboat to go be with jack. "you jump, i jump, remember..." well, when i was 17 and i first saw that scene, i said thats what i would do. i would go and jump off the lifeboat to be with the man i loved...in fact, i wouldnt have even got on the lifeboat to begin with. i would be standing right next to my man willing to go down and die with him. then i had children. now while i agree that scene is very romantic and sweet-i would not be standing on deck with my man nor would i have gotten off the lifeboat...i would be in that lifeboat knowing that i have to survive for my kids. i have to. i wouldnt be overjoyed about it-im sure id be weeping but id still be in that lifeboat. i dont love my dh any less but i know that i cant go down with him cuz of my children. theres a book by danielle steel-no greater love-its about the titanic...the mother of 5 children went down with her dh instead of being with her kids. she chose to be with her dh in the end then be with her kids. again, when i read it when i was younger, before i had kids, i thought that was very romantic and what i would do. now i know thats not what i would do...so i came here to ask your guys take-the ones that have kids and the ones that dont have kids-would you be on that lifeboat or would you be standing next to your man willing to go down with him??
joanne

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Registered: 04-16-2012
In reply to: jhbear419
Mon, 04-23-2012 - 5:33pm
My wife and I saw Titanic (several times actually) when it first came out, and we cried each time. Although for us, as parents of 6 children (4 at the time), the saddest part is when the mother in 3rd class is tucking her children in knowing they are about to die because they couldn't make it to the the lifeboats. In that situation, I would have done everything possible to get them on a lifeboat and then waited for my end knowing that everything I loved in the world would still be safe. For Jack and Rose, however, they knew that the last minutes together on that doomed ship were the last they would ever have. Remove my children from the equation and I would gladly shorten my life to spend a few more moments with my wife.
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Registered: 04-08-2008
In reply to: jhbear419
Sat, 04-14-2012 - 4:07pm
No, I wouldn't. Not matter what age my children are...it doesn't make sense to for both of you to die if there is one spot for someone to survive. There is always a possibility that your DH will survive in the water, but less likely. And even less likely that BOTH will survive. Here is my point, in the original movie she goes with Jack (they aren't married). Then they find a door and she fits on but he doesn't. So she survives on the door and he drowns in the water beside her. Hmmmm....if she had stayed on the lifeboat, then maybe he could find the door and survive on the door??? See my point?

I don't see how dying is romantic so maybe I'm just not the norm here.

I really didn't like the original movie (or maybe it wasn't original but the one with Leonardo Di Caprio)...for those reasons. Plus, I don't see the big deal about one boat sinking. Many boats have sunk in the last 100 years...why is this one so captivating??

Dee
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Registered: 04-25-2011
In reply to: jhbear419
Fri, 04-13-2012 - 5:46pm

I think it depends on what age you believe your adult children are - 30' - 40's - each man for themselves.

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Registered: 09-25-2010
In reply to: jhbear419
Fri, 04-13-2012 - 2:45pm

At this point in time,
Since my sons are adults & sadly not married as of yet .. I would definitely go with my DH,
Whether he chose the lifeboat or not .. we go/stay together where ever it takes us .
Will be interesting to see what others say :)