Making time for your partner

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Registered: 04-08-2008
Making time for your partner
Mon, 10-10-2011 - 6:39pm

So as some of you know, I have 2 little boys aged 3 & 16 mos. They keep me busy but I'm a very high energy person. Dh was shocked when we first started dating bc I was out at least 3 or 4 weeknights. He used to say, "you know it's nice to just stay home once in awhile." So I got in the habit of staying home a little more. We also make sure to do a date night a couple times

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Mon, 10-10-2011 - 10:10pm

Well as you know I am sure it's different for all cou[les,
I say if you two can & enjoy your time together .. then go for it, LOL
Balance is what works for you guys .. you're doing well with it.
DH & I spend basically evenings & weekends together.
He works long hours .. but it all works for us.
Will be great to hear/see what others say :)

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Tue, 10-11-2011 - 7:07am

I think the only thing that really matters is what works for you and DH. But, of course, you already know that.

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Tue, 10-11-2011 - 2:15pm

DH goes to school during the day and I work on the weekends. We spend every evening together. This works out for us, because that gives me time to do what I need to get done and still be with DH when he's not in school. We're both homebodies, mainly since we don't have the money to go out much.

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Tue, 10-11-2011 - 3:00pm

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Tue, 10-11-2011 - 3:55pm

I agree with the others that have said that you need to find the balance that works for you, your DH and your kids. If that amount is more or less than your friends/family/online pals...who cares! ;)

DH and I spend every evening and most weekends together. We aren't always doing things together. On worknights, we fix dinner together, eat dinner and watch TV and then we go our separate ways. He usually plays on the computer and I check in on Facebook, blogs, etc and maybe watch a little more TV by myself. I go to bed earlier than him and read for awhile before falling asleep.

On the weekends, we'll run errands together or take the dogs for a walk.

For a long time, he played a role-playing game every Thursday night and some Saturday afternoons. I actually miss that lately! LOL It gave me a chance to have a dinner I liked (sometimes fast food; sometimes just something he doesn't like as much), work on projects, call friends, etc.