Married couples sleep in separate beds

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Married couples sleep in separate beds
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Mon, 07-26-2010 - 1:50pm

1 in 4 married couples sleep in separate beds

From the New York Times:

My grandparents had a secret. When I was growing up in Savannah, Ga., in the 1970s, my paternal grandparents lived in the house immediately behind us. (My uncle lived next door in a set-up my father likened to Faulkner.) But my grandparents did something in their otherwise typical suburban home that was always something of a mystery to me.

They slept in separate bedrooms.

I speculated that this bifurcated sleeping arrangement had something to do with Southern gentility, Papa’s late-night ham radio habit, or some unseen rift in their marriage. But since my parents slept in side-by-side twin beds, and my wife and I later chose a king-size mattress, I assumed separate bedrooms had gone the way of other bygone relics, like sleeping caps or corsets.

I was wrong. It turns out my grandparents were ahead of their time.

http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/38410209/ns/today-the_new_york_times/

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Mon, 07-26-2010 - 2:45pm
I'm not one for sleeping in separate beds, I would feel really lonely. It seems like the only time DH and I are close is when we're in bed.
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Mon, 07-26-2010 - 6:24pm

I think there are lots of people who can't sleep comfortably with another person. Reasons vary from snoring to Restless Leg Syndrome to overheating to just being plain uncomfortable.


Varied sleep schedules could also make it difficult for one or both partners to get a good night's sleep.


Since sleep can be so important in how people function during the day, I think it's entirely acceptable for a couple to find whatever sleeping arrangement works best for them.


DH and I have always shared a bed. Smaller than what it seems most couples share (which gives me an idea for a poll to follow).


He comes to bed much later than me for a couple of reasons: - I have night terrors and when he's asleep beside me, he has a much harder time getting back to sleep than he does calming me down if I wake up before he's come to bed and - he likes to play games late into the night and I need more sleep than that (arguably he does too because he spends the weekends catching up but that's another issue LOL)


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Mon, 07-26-2010 - 6:54pm
I totally get this,
DH is a really *loud* snorer :(
So yes although we do still share our bed.
Many reasons why some couples may not :)
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Tue, 07-27-2010 - 8:33am

When my kids were babies, I coslept for awhile with the baby.

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Tue, 07-27-2010 - 11:13am
My parents have slept in seperate bedrooms for as long as I can remember. They are happily married for 31 years. My dad snores as loud as anything. You can hear it straight through the wall so imagine sleeping next to that, my mom would be a zombie!
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Tue, 07-27-2010 - 2:10pm

I occasionaly sleep in our guest room.


I have TERRIBLE insomnia...I hate the thought of waking my DH, not to mention he sometimes snores and I can be very very restless.


Its not about not wanting to sleep together...its about wanting to SLEEP! LOL
























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Tue, 07-27-2010 - 6:58pm
My dad snores as loud as anything. You can hear it straight through the wall
Can totally relate & feel your Mom's pain,
smart move on her part :)

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Tue, 07-27-2010 - 7:03pm
It's good you do that Christine,
Going without sleep is no fun.
Bet your DH appreciates it too :)

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Wed, 07-28-2010 - 8:27am

Its not about not wanting to sleep together...its about wanting to SLEEP! LOL


ROFL!

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