My parents and eldest daughter how to handle what they bring to my life and marrage

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My parents and eldest daughter how to handle what they bring to my life and marrage
Mon, 11-18-2013 - 6:21pm

I have been with my husband for over 10yrs and I have two children from previous relationships. My husband has been in their life sense my eldest was 3yrs old and he has acted as their father from day one. My eldest daughter thinks at age 13 she don't have to listen to him or respect him at all. She has always gotten what she wanted from my parents to the point of them telling her that she don't have to listen to me or her step-dad and whenever she's been in trouble she would call my parents and then I get a phone call from my mother asking me why this or why that or she shouldn't be in trouble blah blah blah. My parents disrespect my parenting and all aspects in my life. My mothers the worst she has always walked all over me and to this day continues too. And my daughter has been doing the samething. I have told my parents for over 6yrs that I don't want my children to have anything to do with my sister as I do not because of her habits and she can never stay out of my marrage and parenting as well so I have cut all ties with her. I had let my eldest go stay with her grandparents for the weekend because they asked if she could come see them I let it happen only to find out that my daughter was NOT with them my mother had brought her I my sisters and she spent the weekend with her. sharing this news with my husband was not good it only got us into an argument which happens all the time when my family is involed. Because he feels they do nothing but walk all over me and he's tired of it and hates to see me cry. But really what can I do?? Cut ties with my parents?? I have tried to tell them how what they do makes me feel and that I am the parent so leave it alone but they never listen. Out of all my children the eldest is the only one that they wish to have anything to do with. They are never able to come for anything when it involves the other 4 children and it really hurts they live two blocks away from us and my sisters kids see my mother more then my children do. I'm at a point in my life that I don't know what to do or how to react anymore all I know is that it is and has been causing problems in my marrage and with my daughter an I need some advice on how I could stop this without shutting them out of my life for good. But if that's what I have to do to be happy and live my life then I guess thats what I will do again. If anyone has any advice please let me know I will try just about anything