nagging - any & all suggestions welcome
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|Sun, 08-26-2012 - 11:34am|
Stereotypically, it's women that nag, right? Well, I am finding out that men nag, too. I am looking for some suggestions on how to curb my husband's nagging.
For example, we received a late wedding gift from one of his co-workers. He wanted to mail the thank you card that afternoon since he needed to run some other errands. He asked me to write the thank you card. I said that I would but I had some other things I wanted to get done first, and that I would be glad to mail it the next day if he didn't want to wait on his errands for me to write it. A few minutes later, he's asking me AGAIN to write the thank you card. I told him again that I would be glad to write it, but that I wasn't doing it that very second, and I also suggested that if he wanted it done right away, perhaps he should write it himself. Well, he didn't want to do that, and he kept nagging me until I finally just dropped everything and wrote it.
If I could do this situation over, I think I would have just walked away from him. He would have either had to write the card himself or waited for me to do it when I was finished with the other stuff I was doing. I probably shouldn't have given in to his nagging, but it was just so annoying that I wanted it to stop.
If I ask him to do something, he does it, but he doesn't generally do it right that second. Which is fine and I don't nag him or give him a timeline. I've thought about passively aggressively doing the same thing to him that he does to me, but that doesn't really seem like a good way to handle the situation.
Does anyone have any suggestions for how I should talk to him about this? Any and all advice is welcome.