Need ideas!!!

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Need ideas!!!
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Fri, 05-14-2010 - 1:26pm
Our 4 year mark is just around the corner. Well, 4 yrs since we became a couple, not our 4 yr wedding anni, to be honest this anni still matters more to me than my wedding anniversary as I kinda see May 24th as when I got a second chance at life thanks to the kindness and support of a man, who at the time, barely knew me.

So anyway...I want to buy him something nice. Something special. I thought I had found it....a signed, limited edition book by his favorite author, Hunter S. Thompson. I even transfered $$$ outta my savings to my CC to make the purchase. But last night when I was feeling out what he'd think about such a gift he said "An autograph doesn't mean anything to me unless I got it myself.". So....scratch that idea. I think he also see's a signed book as frivolous maybe...like its still just a book, something you read...ok whatever LOL.

I'm screwed...I have no idea what to buy him and the 24th is just days away. He is a surfer so I thought of maybe a donation to the Surf Rider foundation but I really dont know if that says "I love you, thanks for saving my life". I thought about tickets to a show but same problem. I thought about a trip but I kind of want something tangible. Something he can hold on to, KWIM?

ANY ideas or suggestions are welcome ladies....I've got about $350 to spend.
























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Registered: 01-07-2008
Fri, 05-14-2010 - 3:20pm

Ok, I don't know if this helps, but the traditional gift for a fourth wedding anniversary is fruit or flowers, and the Modern is an appliance. You can Google it, I happened to remember I had a list. So maybe he needs a power tool? I'm going out on a limb here, I just thought I'd put the traditions in here. Maybe this will strike an idea for you, I just thought I'd help. If you want to go by you actual wedding anniversary, Google that and see if the tradition fits better, LOL! Then give him his favorite fruit? k, I'm laughing i sound like an idiot, and I really am trying to help! I'll just leave it at that, those are traditions. If I could think of something else I would. Good Luck! Maybe tell us more about him, what he likes?

* Robyn *

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Registered: 04-30-2008
Fri, 05-14-2010 - 3:28pm

Myabe I should add the story of how we came to be a couple back on May 24 2006 so you can understand why I want to give him something really amazing...


Here it is...



4 years ago I was a jobless, carless, homeless meth addict. I lived with a man nearly 20 yrs my senior and was basically "kept". I cleaned and occasionaly cooked, played arm candy when we went out, entertained his guests at dinner parties etc....and he kept me high all the time.

I was underweight, miserable, sad, lost and alone. Then things got worse. The guy I lived with got sexually and physically abusive. I wanted out but felt trapped. We lived in the middle of no where, I had no car and no money and no one to call for help. My only outlet was the internet when he was at work.

I was on numerous dating sites though at the time I never expected to go on any dates...one of the sites was Hot or Not. I got an email from a guy on HorN and we chatted via email and text then phone over about 10 days time. Then....the guy I lived with went out of town for the weekend...I decided to have the guy I met over to the house to meet. I was expecting maybe...dinner out and a booty call. I really wasn't looking for a date, just something to make me feel better and an outlet. Just a fun night with no strings.

Well, the Hot or Not guy (Robert) showed up and we both were dissappointed LOL. He took one look at me and saw a drugged out head case and I saw a schlumpy, boring, short guy. We didnt even go to dinner or for drinks. We talked a bit then he left. Neither of us expected to EVER speak again.

A week later a girlfriend called me and wanted me to double with her and a Marine she had recently met that night. After b****ing about no time to find a date and that she'd have to pick me up I started calling a couple guys.

Oh...I should note that at this time the guy I lived with was out of town again. 1. He had his own business and traveled a lot, thank God and 2. An old GF of his was single again and he'd leave me at his house while going up North to see her (so he had a sex play thing or whatever, me, at his house but lied to his GF about me and was banging her too ) yeah...seriously warped.

So anyway I called a couple guys I had previously run around with but no body was available or they didnt want to pick me up etc...

I bit the bullet and called Robert. He said sure and that he'd pick me up at my moms if I could get into town. I hitched a ride in.

He was totally different that night...I must have been as well because we had a blast. I ended up going home with him. Nothing happened but a very sweet kiss.


I went back to the house and the older guy because I didnt feel I had options...but Rob and I continued to chat etc...Over the next few days I told him everything. My battle with drugs, the abuse from the guy I lived with, being penniless and baiscally homeless. Before we knew it things had changed. There were feelings...though neither of us admitted it at first.

One night the guy who I lived with did a bunch of meth ( I was pretty high as well) and shot up his house and threatened to kill me. He shot into the room I was in. I hid in the bathroom and texted Rob who came in like the cavalry...packed me and my belongings up and moved me into his apartment....2 weeks after our first meeting.

We have been together ever since.

I got clean...he bought me a car, I got a job, started school....now we have been married almost 2 yrs...I have a degree, we own a home together, I have a wonderful job and that life I was just barely survivng when I met him is a distant memory.























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Fri, 05-14-2010 - 3:57pm

Does he have his Navy Cutlass? I know that they are no longer a part of the uniform, but I've always loved the sword and felt it was the ultimate symbol of chivalry and of hard work. I know that before my dad retired he usually got all of his guys the cutlass when they retired because he felt that they should be honored as gentlemen for the work and sacrifice they have given to the Navy.

I know how much Robert's career means to him and hos dedicated he is, I also know how proud you are of him for his accomplishments in the Navy and I know your own dedication to the Navy as a former sailor as well as a Navy wife. I think that the Cutlass would be a good way to not only honor the work he has put into his career but also honor the work the he (and both of you) have put into your relationship. How he stepped in as a gentleman to help you turn your life around.

I realize that it's a little old fashioned "Knight in shining armor" thinking.. lol.. but for some reason that seems to fit here. Get your knight his sword.







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Fri, 05-14-2010 - 4:39pm
Buy him an IPAD - if he's into toys - he can read basically do anything on there.

Denise

Denise

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Registered: 04-30-2008
Fri, 05-14-2010 - 5:26pm

Kira! Thats brilliant! I am gonna put that in my bag of tricks for our wedding anni. Its perfect!


I say it has to wait for the wedding anni because.....I just bought him this.


http://www.lowes.com/ProductDisplay?langId=-1&storeId=10151&catalogId=10051&fromStore=true&partNumber=5050-49769-5050


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Fri, 05-14-2010 - 5:35pm
Glad you figured it out Christine,
Looks like you did pretty darn well too.
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Fri, 05-14-2010 - 5:38pm

We have that exact same grill! It's awesome!

And the story is adorable and funny and totally you.. lol.

I think he'll love it. :)







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Fri, 05-14-2010 - 5:41pm

Thanks ladies!


I hope he loves it!
























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