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Registered: 04-12-2012
New to Group
Tue, 09-11-2012 - 3:22pm
Hey everyone. I found this site several months ago when I felt alone and googled help for surviving my husbands affair. I participated in the group for "betrayed spouses support." it did help hearing the other stories and being able to vent. However, my husband and I chose to work our marriage out and although I still struggle with his affair, I think it will be better therapy to communicate in a board of "happily married." we are not where we need to be yet but we are working on it. While still in the other board i would read others posts that sounded so similar to my stories and it would bring up bad memories and make me mad at my husband all over again. With that said, I am looking forward to participating in this board and reading what everyone else has to say. Here's to a better relationship with my husband :smileyhappy:
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Registered: 12-22-2007
Tue, 09-11-2012 - 5:44pm

Hi awood, I understand where you're coming from.    I imagine that reading so much hurt and vitriol wouldn't do much for your state of mind either.

In different circumstance (but still relating to being with people in the same situation), I have an autistic child.  And I went to the support groups - but they are so depressing!   And I find that I take on board other people's angst.   I actually found it more helpful to hang out with those who were happy with their lot.    I imagine that this is partly what you're looking for.

I hope your husband is taking responsibility for the A and is working on the parts of him which let him down.   Best of luck to you.

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Registered: 09-25-2010
Tue, 09-11-2012 - 6:23pm
Welcome to the group Amanda,
So glad you decided to join us here.
Focus on the positive sounds terrific!
Hope we see you here again :smileyhappy:

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Registered: 03-23-2000
Wed, 09-12-2012 - 11:17am

Welcome to the board, Amanda!

I'm RoseAnn, married for 16 years to Robert. We live in Denver, CO. I have a grown step-daughter, son-in-law and two grandsons. We also have 2 golden retrievers.

I haven't ever dealt with a cheating spouse but every marriage has its unique challenges and I think it's great that you are focusing on finding positive outlets rather than dwelling on something so difficult.

I look forward to getting to know you here!


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Registered: 04-12-2012
Wed, 09-12-2012 - 11:53am
Thank you all for the nice replies. I look forward to getting to know everyone of you. I'm glad I finally made the move over :smileyhappy: