Noticing other men??

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Registered: 04-08-2008
Noticing other men??
Wed, 07-13-2011 - 10:21pm

This is really weird. I've never been one to notice good looking men. You have to point it out to me. Since being w/DH, I haven't thought or really had any interest in any other men

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Registered: 03-23-2000
Thu, 07-14-2011 - 9:58am

I think that's perfectly normal; like your brain's way of spicing things up a little bit. Or just the free association type thoughts that happen in dreams.

The fact that you've reacted the way you have is a good sign that you don't have anything to worry about. If, instead, you were plotting how to make the fantasy/dream a reality, then I'd say you have problems. LOL


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Registered: 09-20-2007
Thu, 07-14-2011 - 11:25am

You're married, not blind. You'll notice other men, think about other men, fantasize about other men. It's normal and healthy. My DH knows that I notice other men, just like I know that he notices other women. Like Rosie said, if you're planning a rendevoux with another man, that's when you get into trouble. You live with and interact with the other half of the human race and you don't live life with blinders on. So it's perfectly natural to notice a good looking man. They are everywhere, so enjoy the view.

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Thu, 07-14-2011 - 4:46pm

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Registered: 04-08-2008
Sat, 07-16-2011 - 8:19pm

Thanks everyone for replying. I kind of knew it was normal, but I did want reassurance!

We've been married almost 5 yrs, together 7.5 yrs. So I would have thought this day would come sooner if it was going to happen at all, LOL.


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Registered: 09-25-2010
Sun, 07-17-2011 - 2:04pm

Hi Dee,
Sorry it has taken me so long to reply ::blush::
have to say I agree with the others ..
Nothing wrong with looking .. as someone else said ..
You're not blind
It's healthy & normal to look :)