questions for the happily married women

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questions for the happily married women
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Thu, 01-05-2012 - 11:49am

I was just wondering how protective are your husbands of you in situations where someone is disrespectful towards you?

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Registered: 03-23-2000
Thu, 01-05-2012 - 6:17pm

I don't know that DH and I have ever encountered a circumstance like you describe. I guess our philosophy is more to avoid a situation that might lead to that rather than reacting to it after the fact.

RoseAnn

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Registered: 10-17-2010
Sat, 01-07-2012 - 8:45am

But if you did find yourself in that situation, would you expect your husband to say something or would you prefer to handle it yourself?

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Sat, 01-07-2012 - 9:30am

It really depends on the situation.

Are you talking like a bar or concert scene where people are getting grabby/hitting on you? I would actually prefer to handle it myself. Depending on the atmosphere and offensive person, a woman voicing her rights in

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Registered: 09-25-2010
Sun, 01-08-2012 - 7:48pm

Hi there,
I guess I would agree with the op & say it does depend on the situation,
Am not sure if I have ever been in that kind of situation.
Although I guess had I been I would have remembered, LOL
I do know my dh would stand up for me regardles ..
That being said I am sure he would see if I could hold my own so to speak
Hope others have some more suggestions for you :)




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Registered: 09-20-2007
Mon, 01-09-2012 - 12:10am

Because of the dynamics in my marriage, I would fully expect him to stand up for me. I am capable of handling situations on my own, when need be.

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Registered: 04-08-2008
Mon, 01-09-2012 - 2:18am

When DH and I were first dating, we had a situation like this come up. We were getting on a rapid transit line and a creepy guy literally pushed him out of the way to try and sit next to me. I put my bag down and said the seat was taken. He acted offended and said I was making that up (probably bc of the way he looked). He turned to DH and asked him if he was with me and DH said, "go ahead"...!!! Creepy guy pressed his leg against me the whole trip! Luckily he got off first bc I penned in the seat. I kept looking over at DH to see if he was watching us and he WASN'T! Did even look at me...

Needless to say we were up until 1am that night arguing about it. He just didn't see the problem. I was having difficulty explaining that at a primal core I needed to know I could count on him to protect me and any future children we would have together. His side was "of course I would"...and I was "how would I know that when I see

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Registered: 11-13-2011
Mon, 01-09-2012 - 2:49am

Same here ....My husband likes being my protector...without smothering me and I LOVE It =)

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Mon, 01-09-2012 - 7:38am

So funny you said! One of the reasons why I asked this question is because I am noticing some changes in my own behaviour and my own expectations. I am a very strong woman who has no problem standing up to anyone. In my previous long term relationship, it kind of bothered me when he tried acting tough and wanting to protect me, it was probably his approach. However, now that I am married, I find my self not minding it that much. It's not like that it happens a lot, maybe couple of times in the past year. Last time, we went to a local restaurant for dinner to celebrate a friend becoming a doctor. The restaurant also had a dance floor so after dinner we were dancing and some man (who was in our group but we don't know him) pushed me while dancing and kind of touched my behind. My husband saw it and asked me what happened, I told him but he said just said ok and kind of kept an eye on him. Few minutes later, the same man did it again so my husband confronted him and told him to stop touching. I must say it kind of felt nice but at the same time dangerous because you never know who are you dealing with. So that got me thinking, if it was to happen again, would I say something to my husband because I don't want to cause a fight.

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Wed, 01-11-2012 - 9:52am

This is a great question, sunny.

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Thu, 01-12-2012 - 10:06am

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