Is seperate beds really hurting us?
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|Mon, 01-23-2012 - 10:39am|
I am 31 and my husband is 32. We got married oct. 2010. So its been over a year and we have never shared a bed as husband and wife. (Exception being our honeymoon.) I have a daughter who is 8 and just recently started sleeping in her own bed. Before that she was in with me because thats basically how it has been since she was a baby. That transition was really hard but we have managed for the most part. Once she started sleeping the whole night in her bed, my husband was all excited to sleep in my room. (yes i consider it my room!) After about 5 minuted he started snoring, REALLY LOUD and I coulnd't take it. He also tosses and turns a lot and, the biggest problem for me (besides the snoring) is his phone has to be on 24/7. He is not a doctor but he is on call for his job all the time and must be reachable. This means that the phone can and has rung at 2am, 3am, all hours. He can usally fix the issue and go back to sleep but the way I am is that once I wake up, I am up. If it is 2am, then so be it. I have done dishes and laundry at 3am before because I have heard his phone from the living room and woken up. He usually sleeps in our third bedroom (i call it his room) but sometimes passes out on the couch.
If I am to be honest here, I like sleeping alone. It has been so long since I had a bed to myself that now that I have it, I am not really into sharing again.