Tell Me Am I Crazy Here?

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Registered: 01-04-2008
Tell Me Am I Crazy Here?
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Sat, 05-28-2011 - 12:26am

ok so figured maybe some of the happily married people in here can help me out with some insight and advice especially the women b/c no one knows women like women lol

So quick run down, ex and I separated April 2010 divorced Feb 2011. She dated a guy on and off for a year after separation thought he was the one only to find this old high school friend wasn't. Here's my problem Early April of this year after she finds out I decided to test waters and date she realizes she is still in love with me. After a death in the family she came up and stayed for 4 nights and 5 days to be here

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Registered: 01-07-2008
Tue, 05-31-2011 - 11:11am

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Registered: 05-28-2011
Wed, 06-01-2011 - 10:40am

I know I'm going to be the odd ball here, but I say keep trying.

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Registered: 01-04-2008
Thu, 06-02-2011 - 12:06pm

Dee I try and share things with her b/c we both agree we want to have at the very least an amazing friendship. With friendship comes communication and if I don't convey to her that somethings she has said or done has hurt/stung me and bothered me it could potentially build up into a ticking time bomb so to speak inside of me if I let it fester. So yes I communicate with her and try to always keep open the line of communication between us.

As for my own healing yes there are things are directly related to her b/c I do want to bring us back together and I feel like daily I try to prove myself to her and show her that she can have faith and confidence and trust in me. But at same time yes I need to find a way to cope with everything that is going on and help myself continue on the path I have chosen to never be the monster I was that failed our marriage and be the husband, father, person her and our children always hoped I would be and fix the relationship with my kids and whatever I can fix with her and I whether a new marriage or just friendship.

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Registered: 09-26-2003
Sun, 06-05-2011 - 6:12pm

My husband and I were seperated for a while.We attended Retrouvaille and our marriage is better than ever.Sure we have disagreements but we are able to work them out do to this program.

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